On Being a Friend

God said:

Beloveds, I know you would never speak ill of others, but what are you doing when you speak of others' difficulties? If you must see difficulty, if you must see fault, if you must see downfall, no longer tell others about it, for then you compound it. You, in effect, affirm the very declivities you see. These are not for you to confirm. Who are you to proclaim anyone else deficient in any way? Who are you to broadcast anything you see as weakness in another? Think twice.

Do not say: "My friend doesn't look well." "My friend has gone off the deep end." "My friend is getting mixed up with the wrong people." "My friend is a terrible housekeeper." "My friend lost all of his money."

I am not questioning the accuracy of such statements, although they may be inaccurate. I am questioning your talking about your friend to others. I am questioning your reason for doing so. Are your judgments infallible? Would you vouch for your conclusions in public? Would you want them repeated to your friend?

From now on, follow the adage that says: "If you cannot say anything good about someone, don't say anything at all".

You may think you are a good friend who has concern and love for your friend, and yet you are advertising, affirming, and compounding the dim light in which you are seeing your friend. You are doing this needlessly. Stop. Don't do it again.

You might say, "But, God, what else is there to talk about?"

Well, then, let there be nothing to talk about. Be silent then. Hush.

You have been fostering drama, and now you will not.

Think well of your friends and speak well of them too. Be a friend.

A friend keeps confidences. A friend keeps adverse observations to himself. He does not mount evidence against a friend's well-being

Oh, all right, perhaps talk to your husband or wife about your concerns, but do not broadcast your concerns. Broadcasting your concerns is not the same as broadcasting your love.

Better not to make a friend's perceived condition table conversation.

What is your business, and what is not your business? When do you step in, and when do you step out? When in doubt, don't. Be not so sure about a diagnosis you make about your friend. Think before you speak, beloveds, or you may be just gossiping. You don't want to be a gossip-monger. You want to be a friend. Then be a friend. A friend keeps counsel to himself.

Be aware when you are not championing your friend. Be aware when you are not championing your sons and daughters, or your husband or wife as well. This is not the first time you have been advised to focus on what you favor rather than on what you disfavor. Build what you want to build. Do not go into a huddle with other friends and announce your fears.

Speak not ill of others, and you will change the outlook of the world. You certainly will change your own outlook and the view in your own mind. As you no longer promulgate the real or imagined ills of others, you will find yourself at peace.

It is like this: When you reference a friend, give only a good reference. Love your friend in heart and in deed and in speech. Keep your friend's reputation high, and so will you keep your own vibration high.

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Dear God, I loved this!!!

Dear God,

I loved this!!! Yes Yes Yes! Our words carry power. When we speak about negative observations of a friend, we DO indeed give energy to the negative thought. I love how you did allow a brief conversation about such observance with our significant other! God this resounds within as such impeccable truth. I know I need to work on this more. My speech, my words, my thoughts they are all me and to vibrate high and to send out the best to my friends, family, co-workers, etc is what I should be doing always. Thank you God. I appreciate this important reminder for my life. God, it is uncanny how you were speaking to me via the Daily Word and now through Heaven Letters. .I mean extremely and precisely right to me. I don't know why I feel surprised anymore. I love hearing from you. Also, I think what you share here w/ me God could apply even broader like to talking about my country, my community, etc. I am accountable for my words, my words carry power, my focused thoughts are powerful, I need to take more care in what I think and verbalize. I know my Mother is there w/ you now God ... feeling... amused... how many times did she say to me "don't say everything that pops into your heard..." She was right. You are right. God, would you mind letting her know, I finally GOT it : ).

Much Love,

DesertRose
Our thoughts are powerful and creating our next precious moment

Live heartfully...

Hi DesertRose. Welcome to this site and thank you for your beautiful words. Yes indeed...what will happen to the world when we begin to:

1) Think and speak heartfully of ourselves and...
2) Think and speak heartfully of others...

For our Heart really does know the truth of ourselves and others...it knows nothing of judging or comparing or disparaging or complaining. The Heart's business is about a loving, spacious allowing.

Live heartfully: "Beneath the busy marketplace of the mind beats a loving, all-abiding Heart"

Love and blessings, Jim and Jimi.

You finally got it and so

You finally got it and so did I smiling...

Our thoughts are powerful and creating our next precious moment, and indeed moments for people around us. The intent by which we speak and act, carry the energy and power of healing for ourselves and people around us.

If we speak certain words and our thoughts are saying something else, then our expression of truth is disconnected. When our actions and words follow the good intention from within our thoughts and feelings and from our heart, then there is great healing energy being passed on from one human being to an other and back, as healing energy goes both ways. I was watching a film the other night together with my son at 11. The Ninth Insight really shows visually how energy flows around us and in between us. It was wonderful seeing what I already know. When energy is good it enhances the colours, making them bright and clear - the true perception of us as one human race.

Honesty and good intention in everything we are and do, releases great healing powers in ourselves, for ourselves and for those around us, for human beings, for animals and for nature. There is nothing greater than healing from true potential of being for ourselves and collectively. True intention in everything we are and do reveals the love and light within our beings. The wisdom from our consciousness connecting us to the whole and holy. This is Truth individually and collectively, so natural.

Know what? You are being and doing great. Your awareness of intending good reveals itself as you are writing, and the same goes for everyone else writing comments of truth on Heavenletters. The light and love is shining through to everyones goodness and everyones heart and the energy flows everywhere.

Love and Light is on the horizon and is getting more and more visible day by day. We are all connected, and by realizing, even just by the awareness, connectedness is being reinforced through Love. What already is - is being revealed, and the amazement and happiness of truth will continue beyond limitations into our Future for Love and Harmony, Togetherness and Aspiration, Freedom and Peace and voila Truth revealing itself smiling. You cannot miss it even if you tried. This is how strong it will BE...

We will see the renewed energy everywhere - in everyone, hear it, feel it, even smell it and taste it. It will be everywhere...

Love Heart : )

On Being a Friend

I am thankful for this admonishment: TO BE SILENT. DON'T STEP IN WHERE
YOU DON'T NEED TO BE. SURELY THERE'S ENOUGH DRAMA IN THE WORLD I DON'T NEED TO FOSTER MORE. I WILL KEEP MY OWN COUNSEL. I FEEL LIKE DRIVING
DOWN TO CARMEL TODAY.. ALONE. KEEPING MY OWN COUNSEL, I SHALL ENJOY
THE SEA AND THE DIVINE MYSTERY OF EVERYTHING. I SHALL BE AWARE OF
ANY AROUND ME WHO SEEM TO BE VIBRATING AT A HIGHER LEVEL. OF LIGHT
AND PEACE.

Thanks for the reminder,

Thanks for the reminder, Gloria. I'm batting .500 on this issue today, and I hereby vow to improve!

Your message reminds me of the brain scientist, Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, who had a massive stroke. For a long time she could not remember the history she had with people -- who had offended her, those she liked, and those she didn't. All those memories were gone, so she approached each person fresh. What freedom that must have brought! No resentments, no judgments, just a clean page for each acquaintance, neighbor, and colleague.

Her book is called My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist's Personal Journey

Warmest aloha,
Tracey
Honolulu, Hawaii

Beloved Tracey, see the

2 Heavenletter Haikus for

2 Heavenletter Haikus for you

Hello Friends,

God said affirm it
Focus on what you favor
Say anything good

God said to think twice
Change the outlook of the world
Broadcasting your love

Love, Light and Aloha!