What Is It You Cry For, Beloveds

Heavenletter #3734 Published on: February 14, 2011
God said:

Sadness soothes you. Let’s admit that. You apply sadness sometimes like a salve. You take comfort from all your sad thoughts. Even when they make you cry, you apply your thoughts and find a reassuring comfort. This is okay, you know. What you have to do is to admit this.

Even your sense of guilt carries sweetness. Even your loneliness carries sweetness. You like feeling. You like feeling sadness. Don’t protest. If you didn’t like it, you wouldn’t conjure it so much. Let those tears slide from your eyes. Reap the sadness, and let it go where all sadness goes. It gets purified and flows back again. It gets sweeter and sweeter.

Don’t deny this. You take comfort in what was and is no more. And, yet, what I wish to convey to you, is that the lost events and people you miss exist as much now as they ever did. It’s just that you can’t go back to the time and physical existence they offered. Of course, at the time, the events and people maybe didn’t give you the comfort you take from them now.

And, so, in your very human way, you try to pick up the stitch you dropped so long ago. You were in such a hurry that you didn’t know you had dropped a stitch until you were long past it. So what is it that you cry for, beloveds? For whom is your sadness? It is for you that you cannot mend what you once did not know enough then to prevent and cannot mend now no matter how much you wish to, no matter how much you wish you had once.

The life you passed by so quickly once upon a time, you would get down on your knees to now. You would kiss away tears you once caused another. You would kiss away your complicity in a play you would now act out differently.

Kiss away your own tears now. Bless yourself, and get up off your knees. The sadness of your long-gone past is fleeing. Of course, that very flight contributes to your sadness too. It is another cause for you to be sad that you can’t quite so completely hold on to the sadness that you once held so close to you. Oh, no, you are even losing your total sadness.

Of course, you also have qualms for the future, yet, rather than sadness, qualms for the future may tend to be more like dread. Certainly, sadness is preferable to dread.

Now I suggest that you have gladness for the past and for the future, why not?

For the past, why not be glad that you care? Why not be glad that now you have grown and can see now from a greater perspective than you did then. You would, if you could, go back and change how you reacted back then, but, beloveds, you can’t. You can only tip your hat and say, “Sorry. I’m sorry now. I would love every minute with you now. What an oaf I was not to love every moment with you then. I could kick myself. Now you are very tender to me, and you bring out all the sweetness in me that I was not aware of then and am so acutely aware of now. And so I have grown, and you whom I miss have been part of my growth. I thank you for all that I learned from you. I’m sorry it took me so long to learn. May you know my love now. Maybe you always knew, and I’m the only one who didn’t.

“As for the future, let me forgive myself and let go of events and everybody right now, and regrets will cease to exist.”

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Happiness Dear Lord

On February 14th, 2011 -- (not verified) says:

The beauty of today,
iIs a reflection of yesterday.
the moments we dance now
are sparkles of magic which the past endow

Dear Lord, Thank you for your beautiful heaven letter today. Sometimes it is sadness which keeps us holding onto parts of ourselves which we are afraid to let go of or allow our being to grow. By reaching out to happiness we can come to a place of peace, being grateful for the past and grateful that we have a future. I too wish I could go back in time and make special smiles instead of the tears I have caused. Dear Father, you are so perfectly correct. We can spend today feeling sadness or we can go out and make someone special smile instead. We can cry or make many laugh with joyful passion. Dear Lord, I wish for your blessings and strength to help us all follow your path towards happiness. Embracing our past, living today and searching for tomorrow - all while loving each part of Life. If I could turn back time... I would seek the Solace of Your Graceful Wings Dear Father... for it is there we feel safe to feel Happiness. Thank you for your beautiful blessings Dear God. Thank you with all my heart for your letters have healed countless hearts.

Love and Light

Who are you, dear one, who

On February 14th, 2011 Gloria Wen... says:

Who are you, dear one, who writes so beautifully? Will you kindly email an informal candid photo of yourself and your permission to use some of your words here on the Reader Comment page? I learned from what you wrote.

With great humilty

On February 17th, 2011 -- (not verified) says:

Dear Gloria - thank you kindly for your beautiful words. I feel humbly blessed to receive your blessings and happy wishes. i would be honoured and more than happy for You to use the above response. But dear Gloria, I can't take the credit for what was written. It was Your lovely Heaven Letter that brought feelings and thus words to the surface. Please feel very free to use any words, Dear Gloria. With Kind and Loving regards

dropped so long ago

On February 14th, 2011 Jochen (not verified) says:

All of that is healed. I'm not particularly prone to nostalgia and regret, and there isn't much I miss now. Whatever wrong I consciously did, "Sorry" has been said and all is made up.

It's different with guilt for not being able to do it right, for not being what you were supposed to be, for not even knowing what it was you were expected to be. That leaves you feeling there must be something fundamentally wrong with you. It makes you dread the future, expecting incursion and attack every moment. But yes, there is some sweetness to that sadness. Why?

"You came with nothing but Me" is what the first numbered Heavenletter says. It must have been an eager and happy coming, a coming in love. Everything encountered from then on naturally connects to that happy coming in love and eagerness so that even pain and unhappines, even the sense of something being fundamentally wrong with you, have to be that deep immersion in love of your coming with nothing but God. There is then a clinging to pain as an expression of primal love, what else could there possibly be? A simple equation forms itself in your mind: Love = pain. The next step is: Much love = much pain. And you end up with: Less love = less pain. Voilà.

You have a whole life to work this out, to allow pain to guide you back to the state prior to that seemingly fateful but unavoidable misunderstanding, and that is where you will say your final "Sorry" and be free.

In this, Heavenletters are helping me like nothing ever did, not nearly.

Wow, Jochen. Wow.

On February 14th, 2011 Gloria Wen... says:

Wow, Jochen. Wow.

"a simple equation"

On February 14th, 2011 Emilia says:

I very vividly remember one evening, few years ago, when I cried quietly, but with all the force I could find in me:" Whoever you are, if You ever are, make my weakness become my strength". I was thinking of love and vulnerable hearts, of subtle, ancient, engraved pain and that...I was unable to apply the last part of the equation. Shortly after I found Heavenletters.

Beautifully Said

On February 15th, 2011 kayk (not verified) says:

Dear Jochen,

Thank you for your enlightening message, Brother. There is such beauty in your words. One question I would appreciate your perspective on is, Does it cause Us pain to Love God? Or does Loving God free us from Pain? Does becoming one with God, each other and the universe hurt us or liberate us? If Pure Love is experienced, is it equivalent to the liberation, pure bliss and ecstasy One is thought to experience once Divine Love has melded with One's heart and becomes their eyes, voice and walk? I would truly appreciate your thoughts because I hold your opinions and wisdom in high esteem. I pray that pain is only a shadow which follows Divine Love but is not Love itself. And the experience of Divine Love frees us From Pain. I hope I have not offended anyone by asking this question. Please forgive me in advance if I have.

Dear Brother, i understand your feeling of not being who we think we should be or are expected to be. That feeling is the worst feeling because it leaves us feeling perplexed and with a nauseating feeling in the core of our heart (countless times I feel this). Dear Brother, maybe if we learn to not expect to be a prescribed someone and be just who we are. Be the best we can by following what we consciously know is true in our heart. And pray that when we think of doing something which we are consciously aware may go against the truth of our soul or the Will of God, we retract from doing that (to preserve the Truth of Love, the Will of our Soul).

With much love and light and thank you for your beautiful passage. I will keep it close to my heart and look forward to hearing from You.

Dear Kay,

On February 15th, 2011 Jochen (not verified) says:

From the way you put your questions, it is quite obvious that you already know the answers. Do not hesitate to own your knowing. Let no one tell you what to think. But of course, allow Heavenletters to remind you of what YOU truly think. Well, that's obviously what you are doing anyway.

Your question may be a little difficult for some but I am confident it is in no way offending. You are right, of course, to apologize to anyone whose sinsibilities might be affected; I should do that sometimes, and the reason I'm not doing it is that I always hope my intentions are clear enough – als clear as yours are.

What can I say, Kay? Every single word you say is exactly right. Pain is pure imagination, there is no real pain anywhere in creation. But imagination can hurt quite badly as you seem to know.

I love your gentle and sensitive way of expressing yourself.

It must be that kind of pain

On February 15th, 2011 Normand Bo... says:

It must be that kind of pain that the new born expresses with his first shout. The contact with oxygen must be terrifying. What a vertigineous drop into little reality.

Cry only for Him...

On February 14th, 2011 Glenn Straub (not verified) says:

This Heaven Letter brings to mind a story long told.

A woman obviously distressed told a sage: "First my husband passed away. I was upset but I could bear it, because I had my only daughter, a lovely talented child. When she was 12, she fell ill and died. Since then I cannot find peace of mind. She was all I had, so beautiful and promising. When she had hardly begun her life, she was torn away from me. Why did she leave me? I cannot understand. For some time I worked in an orphanage. I thought, if I have no child, let me at least serve motherless children. I got attached to these children and they to me. But my heart is still broken. All the time I am pining for my darling. Nothing appeals to me. I want my child back. What am I to do?"

The sage responded: "First of all, sorrow comes from the sense of 'I' and 'mine'. You say: 'My daughter died', and so you grieve. But who are you? Find out who you are! She was the fruit of your body. As long as you are identified with the body, there must be pain. It is inevitable. So many boys and girls die, young and beautiful, yet it does not affect you deeply. You only think this one child was your own and you have lost her."

"Then there is another thing to be learnt - all sorrow is due to the fact that one keeps apart from God. When you are with Him, all pain disappears. Let your thoughts dwell on Him. Remember that your daughter is now with Him. The more you think of God, the nearer you will be to her. If you must shed tears, cry for Him."

"Just as some blossoms fall off without bearing fruit, so do some human beings die young. For a while God had entrusted the child to your care and then He took her back unto Himself. Now He Himself is looking after her. One day you will go there too. Until then keep your mind on God and you will also be with your child."

"How do you know that your child is not much better off where she is now? How much trouble and distress life has brought you! Would you have desired a similar fate for her?"

"Then again, on the level where there is only one Self, there is no question of birth and death. Who is born? Who dies? All is one Self"

"The same mind that identifies itself with the body can be turned towards the Eternal and then the pain the body experiences will be a matter of indifference. Since the body is bound to get hurt at times, there must be suffering as long as one is identified with it. This world oscillates endlessly between pleasure and pain; there can be no security, no stability here. These are to be found in God alone. How can there be both, the world and the One? On the way there seem to be two, God and the world, but when the Goal has been reached, there is only One. What worldly life is you have seen. Who is yours? Only God. In Him you will find everything and everyone. "I am your child".

Several months later the same lady came back. She looked younger and happier. "I have gotten over my grief," she said "I am now reconciled to my fate. When I heard the sage say: 'I am your child', the voice was my daughter's voice. My hair stood on end and I had a wonderful feeling which I cannot describe in words. From that moment the wound in my heart began to heal. I have gained an inner conviction that my child is happy where she is. I am finding peace. I wish all bereaved mothers could be comforted as I have been."

Putting an end to the sense of sacrifice

On February 15th, 2011 Normand Bo... says:

Is not the basis of all our pains and distresses residing in the whole idea that we are sacrificing something even against our will? Is God asking us to sacrifice the beloved ones He "seems" to call back to Him?

This idea of sacrifice is totally and solely of our making. It seems like if we were finding safety in feeling pain through sacrifice. And don't we nourish the thought that through that sense of sacrifice, we are expressing love? That smells ego! Can we seriously believe that sacrifice is love? What if, as God suggests, we perceive in a sane way that sacrifice is separation from love? Guilt is the condition of sacrifice. What if we start thinking that our beloved dead ones are not sacrified but are contributing to our awareness of our relationship with God?

All pain and sacrifice and littleness will vanish in our enhanced vision of relationship with our loved ones as long as it is an "innocent" relationship which is our basic relationship with God.

thank you of your blesseng

On February 14th, 2011 carmen rasmussen (not verified) says:

dear God heaneley father,
thank you bless as in aour heart and mind
all your words so sweetnes,,
so much my memory in my mind to remember
what in my pass afer all your heavenwords
you learn me to forgive my self and forget to the pass
thank you dear God of your blesseng,,

Sadness is a healing balm when used in Heaven's love

On February 14th, 2011 George Mon... says:

Please know that sadness can waste your love or heal your broken heart.

When I held my darling wife of 64 years as she transcended my eyes expressed the love she knew we had shared on earth with family and friends..

Those tears told her that while I waited to join her, my love was just for her, and a little bit of tears for my aloneness.For her and all who knew and loved her my sadness took the form of serving and loving the One into whose arms she moved in eternal rest.

Healing sadness brings no pity and needs none, It grows flowers of memory for the one who left for the high mountain of forever.

George

Dear George, you help to

On February 14th, 2011 Normand Bo... says:

Dear George,

you help to remind us that human way of love has to be overtaken by God's way of love. God knows only universal love, the one that reaches beyond the body. Love is pure Idea and so is God and so are we. We come to realize that Idea and body cannot both exist no more than Truth and illusion can be reconciled, no matter how we try, what means we use and where we see the problem. The opposites we see in us will never be compatible. One must be true and the other one illusion. Our sadness comes from the fact that we cannot attempt to reconcile the two, for one denies that the other can be true. It becomes a matter of choice. The self we made can never be our real Self and our real Self cannot be split in two. We have to choose if we want to be physical or spiritual. If we choose to be physical, how can God be part of our self definition? If we choose to be spiritual, then the body has to become meaningless to our reality. Therefore we must accept that the body is illusion. Our peace comes from the choice we make.

Thanks friend for sharing your long acquired wisdom.