Who Is Being Realistic Now?
When you say that life is hard, what you are really saying is that life does not always give you what you want or what you demand and insist on. Demand and insist all you want, and you show your belief in winning, and you show your belief in losing as well. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. When you venture, the venturing is your gain. That you applied yourself is your gain. In the going for, you gain.
When you can accept that life does not have to deliver what you order, how hard will life be then?
What if everything is all right as it is, even when it doesn't live up to your desires?
Set standards for yourself but not for others and not for life. Let life be. Your life is not dependent upon outcomes. I repeat, your life is not dependent upon outcomes. Outcomes are end results. What you do is your business. Outcomes belong to themselves.
Be confident in a certain stability within yourself, and let the control of results in life go. By all means, apply for a job you want, for example. Follow through, yet do not grit your teeth and tell yourself that you must have that job. Insist on what you yourself can do, and do not for one minute think you can dictate someone else's decision. That is not your jurisdiction. That is not your role. Your role is to go for and then let go.
Remember that I gave free will. What I give, so must you give.
When you endeavor to control that which is not in your control anyway, you will successfully raise your blood pressure. When you would like to lower your blood pressure, let go of trying to control. Choose to go through life at a more relaxed pace.
Apply yourself to the job at hand, and let the results be what they may.
Perhaps you love someone with all your heart. And now, no matter how much you love with all your heart, the one you love loves another. So be it. If, in order to achieve what you want means you have to thwart another's will, stop there. Stop right there. You are not meant to impose your will over another's will. Who are you to even think of it?
Beloveds, you are responsible for your happiness. Surely you can have and have had an extra dollop or two of happiness from others. Others can boost your having a good feeling about yourself. Even so, you are the one to grace yourself with good feeling. Grace yourself.
When you feel that people have let you down, for all intents and purposes, you have let yourself down. You had expectations that might or might not have been fulfilled. And when your expectations are not met, who is responsible for keeping your spirits high? You. Just you, beloveds. Well, you and I.
Life is like a jigsaw puzzle. You can only fit in one piece at a time, and you cannot make a piece fit that doesn't. You thought it would fit. It looked like it would fit, only it didn't fit. It had all the earmarks except, in actuality, the piece simply didn't fit. Who is it who said that it had to? You, beloveds. You said your dream had to come true. Is it a law?
In the metaphor of the puzzle as your life, your chosen piece does not have to fit. Your wanting it to fit doesn't make it fit. Who is being realistic now?
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