Well, dear Fauna, I won't speak for God, but is there anyone who doesn't have this question?
This is a dilemma, isn't it?

It certainly seems that some people have more to deal with than others. May these people who have what we know as suffering also be more rewarded.

I am sure there are Heavenletters where God talks about pain and suffering.

Jochen, what do you find? And how would you respond to Fauna's sincere question?

I know my heart wants to rally round Fauna.

And Fauna asks a pertinent question in her last sentence.

Of course, we know that's not so. I do remember that God says we don't have to suffer. Surely He wouldn't make it a requirement for ascension. Maybe ascension means without suffering, not that suffering is a requirement. Just means we're not ascended yet.

I wonder what you all think about this?

By the way, I happen to know Fauna lives in Malaysia. You are so welcome here, dear one.

Hello Fauna,

First I shall tell you I know how you feel.

I too imagined what would happen when my dad died, I saw my mother dying too, of heartbreak, she has heart problems, but Fauna, she didn't, she mourned, yes, but she is ok.

May I suggest, you live each day as it comes.

And deal with any problems as they arise.

If you think about it, worrying is no help to anyone, all it does is cause sorrow.

It doesn't stop happening whatever will and it often is completely unnecessary.

Ascension is the opening of our hearts to embrace the love and beauty in all living things and yes, it can be painful, it's made my jaws ache several times.

It sounds to me as if you need a huge hug and someone to tell you all will be well.

Well Fauna here's a hug for you (((Fauna))) and all will be as it should be.

Methinks that when your tears are done, you will feel much stronger and more able to cope.

I am thinking of you lady xxxx

Dear Fauna, Gloria found such a beautiful image for what surely everyone reading your words will feel -- "I know my heart wants to rally round Fauna." Of course, pain is real! From the perspective of Oneness it's not worth mentioning perhaps, but as humans on our way back into that awarenes, all our experiences and feelings are real enough. We would be doing ourselves a disservice by invalidating them. Pain is.

But pain is not the only thing and certainly not "first". "Pain first" is what we learn one way or another when we grow up. No, there are no prerequisites for coming close to God, He has said that countless times. Pain, sadness, tears, what have you, are not in the way and neither are they the way. The trick, if I may call it that, is to let yourself not be deterred by anything. Nothing has to be gone through or conquered first, no steps are wrong, no steps are required, God ist always and under all circumstances there, at much less than arm's length.

Concerning your husband: You certainly know this but I know we tend to forget (at least I do), so I will repeat it here for you and me: There is no walking away from the Tao.

A very warm welcome, Fauna. I did find my "painkillers" here. Hope you also will.

Perhaps you are doing very well in challenging circumstances. From where I am, I only see courage in your words. It takes the bravest soul, to see through adversity, through the dross to what lies beyond. And you do see that. Only a the purest devotion can have such vision. To have faith that everything is in God's hands.

When you pull of the plaster from a healed wound it hurts. Its ok to hurt and the pain always goes away. You out come from the experience, healed. Whole. Not leaking anymore. Complete.

You are doing just fine Fauna.

One Love

I think was God Who said: "Pain is inevitable in the world, yet suffering is an option you take".
You are really in a hard situation but perhaps to live this painful situation without suffering would be ascension.

We all are beside you, Fauna
Love
Yuri

Hi Fauna: Yes...I can see there is a lot on your plate right now dear one. And I send you tender love...and maybe a little tough love too...although in truth real love is never tough...it is always tender. So here is some tender love: Outcomes of others, relatives, loved ones, friends is out of our control. And this of course runs contrary to how most humans perceive reality...and that is okay too. And of course it is very natural and beautiful to want the very best for others...expecially those near and dear to us. Having lost a daughter and wife to trauma (suicide) and disease (cancer) I know first hand how these things can be...and I went thorough a lot of inner turmoil until I finally decided to turn all of my fear and remorse and confusion and anxiety over to God...and this did help a very great deal! I was then able to provide love and support to both of them although in both cases I knew they would both leave! But...I had arrived at a place where I knew for a fact that it was none of my business whether they stayed or left!! Absolutely none of my business! Did I wish for them to stay...yes...And was I ultimately okay with their passing...yes again! And the reason for the second yes is that they are both alive and well in my heart...which in my view is a connecting point for souls! And here is something else that I have discovered in life...that sometimes what we call suffering and pain...is a sacred journey into the realm of the heart...straight to the divine. It is an opportunity to connect with the divine...Now you may view this differently...and that is fine...but this has been my experience. May I recommend a couple of books...and this may be premature..."A Gradual Awakening" and Meetings at the Edge" by Stephen Levine. Excellent books for people going through pain and strife and even terminal illnesses..(written from a Vipassana perspective).and these books are for friends and caregivers as well. In the meantime...ask me any question or email me and I will hold you and your beloved family in my heart. Loving you always, Jimi.

Dearest Fauna,

with so many wonderful replies here there isn't anything new or different I would say. Your sharing and all replies here are for all of us here, it's a reminder and a help for all of us when God is taking us along a way that we'd rather not go.
All wonderful souls here and all the wonderful Heavenletters and all other postings are a most sweet and beautiful expression of God's love.

I send you, dearest Fauna, all my love, I give you a sweet and tender hug. Pls feel free to contact me any time .

Much much love to you
Berit