This line surprised me, too, Engin.

This is my understanding of what God is saying here:

We want another person to understand our point of view, if not, understand, then at least listen.
We must want to be important enough to this other person that we want him to listen. We may get into a heated argument. All the while, what we want is this person to hear us.

This other person maybe means something to us, or why would we care so much.

I suppose an example of this would be the mother who is angry at her child for running out in the street. She's upset because she cares about her child.

I remember reading a true account a long time ago. Could have been in the Reader's Digest.

There were two neighbors who were angry with each other, to the point that they did not speak for something like twenty-five years What a pity. But, anyway, whenever one of the men went to his mailbox, he would scowl at the other neighbor's house etc. It seemed like each had the other neighbor on his mind quite a bit.

After so many years, one of the neighbors died. The living neighbor really and truly missed his neighbor, realized that, despite the grudge, they had been some kind of friends.

I think God is saying that when we're angry, we really care about the other person. In any case, if I feel the other person owes me an apology, maybe I am to be the one to say, "I'm sorry," first.

Does that help at all?