Your griefs come not from others' hearts but from your own. You may complain that others don't love you or don't love you enough, but it's your own love of others you feel bereft of.

When you are angry at others for their lack of heart and respect toward you, it is your own heart you are bemoaning.

It is not so much: "Where has their love gone?"

It is more: "Where has my love gone? When did I stop being this wonderful loving creature I thought I was? These others must be at fault. It must be that they have taken the love out of my heart. I hold them responsible. It is their fault I feel angry. If it weren't for them, I would be happy and my heart would be full…"

You will no longer feel like a target when you have no targets yourself.

If you did not pick respondents to blame, you would not feel yourself so much an object tossed about by others. If you did not hold others responsible for whatever objections you cast on them, if you did not attack them in your mind with blame etc., you would not feel that life or another attacks you or tries to detract from you. If you did not put others at your whim, you would not feel at the whim of others. If you did not bandy about other hearts, yours would not feel bandied about.

You notice your own failings in others. They don't fail you. You fail yourself.

Do not think that I am affixing blame to you or berating you. Dear ones, I am telling you that you cannot fix others. So long as you try to fix others — even if only in your mind — you extend your frustration. You succeed in foisting your frustration onto another but your success at that does not last long, and then your frustration returns to its origin, and you are left with its throbbing in you again.

When you push to change someone else's way of thinking or doing, you are frustrating them, and so you feel frustration. Your thoughts about them frustrate them. You frustrate their natural evolution. When you pick out someone's negativity toward you, you may be picking out what you have made of them.

Your happiness is not truly dependent upon others' behaviors or attitudes or what they make of you. You make it dependent upon what you think they have made of you and then, subsequently, what you make of them.

This is one good reason why it is important for you to turn to Me. In turning to Me, you turn yourself to a different vantage. Your own thoughts have held you in place, and often an uncomfortable place at that. And so, when you return to Me, your thoughts are diverted or lifted, if only for a moment. You suspend hostilities when you look toward Me.

Then, when you return to your own thoughts, they are less hardy. Even if the same thoughts are still there waiting for you to return to them, they are not quite so certain. You have lost your place in them a little bit.

Your attention on Me intervened.

In all battles, call on Me. Internal or seeming external, call on Me. When you are in need, I am more than your refuge. I am your Help. Come, revive yourself.