Sustaining Love

Heavenletter #4221 Published on: June 15, 2012
God said:

It is so easy for you to feel loving when you are loved back the way you believe you must be loved back, absolutely must be loved back. Even as you know that people can only love as they love, you crave to be the Adored. To have once been enthroned on the pedestal only to be thrown off the pedestal you were put on or seemed to be put on feels to you like the greatest betrayal. You were given the brass ring, and then it was taken away from you. This leaves your heart raw. What you once counted on cannot be counted on anymore, and so you are distraught, and so you are bereft. But what really has happened, beloveds? A picture has been taken away from you. A pretty picture it was indeed, and it has been removed, taken away, and yet the love from another was never yours to own. It is not owed to you. Love simply does not work that way.

You feel that everything has changed, yet what has changed? The way someone feels about you, and, therefore, how you feel about yourself, as though you have flubbed another relationship and life itself once again. It comes back to you and how you feel about yourself. Be beloved of yourself. Thank God for love as it has been given to you. Love was wonderful. You had the illusion of owning it.

Your worth cannot be proved by the love given to you nor can your worth be disproved by love withdrawn. The fault in you is that you looked outside you for your sense of self-worth. No one but you is responsible for your sense of self-worth. I give it to you, and I do not withdraw My love and appreciation from you. But, even with Me, beloveds, as you know, you cannot look to Me to give you everything you want. I stay the same. My love for you stays the same, and yet, no matter how much I bless you, I do not give you everything you want. Life in the world is not always on your terms. You may do well to withdraw your terms.

You equate so much with love. You may put all your eggs of self-worth in one basket.

Love means a lot, and, yet, love from another human being, is not everything. It was everything to you, and then you were let down. Love from another is a great shawl around your shoulders, and, yet, a shawl is just a shawl. Love from another is a great thing, and, yet, the love in your own heart is better than love affixed on you from another. If you want to be starry-eyed, look at the stars.

Ah, the sustenance of love. How do you maintain love? How do you maintain the love in your own heart? Do not let the love in your own heart become a turncoat. Your heart is meant to be warm, soft and viable. Your heart is never meant to be hardened. Massage your heart now with your thoughts of how love flows and flows through you. Soften your heart. Make it beat. Make it pliable. Help your heart to engage in love over heartache any day. Do not regret for even another five minutes more. Keep your love lively. Love always.

No one betrayed you. No one wanted to. Is it betrayal for another's heart to fluctuate? How quickly your own heart has fluctuated. Forgive yourself now so that your own heart can be restored to its rightful state. Your own heart is at the heart of the matter.

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A Lesson on the Source of Pain

On June 15th, 2012 Normand Bo... says:

We could almost say, if not absolutely say, that the source of all pain and all suffering, including physical pain, lies ultimately in looking outside to confirm or infirm our real identity which is also our self-worth. The source of all sickness, despite its seemingly multiple variations, resides in our ignoring of who we are or in our non-acknowledging of who we are by searching confirmation or mirorring in the outside world.

It is not an easy lesson to integrate because even if we know that ego is only a script of a movie we write, enact and watch at the same time, we cannot necessarily change it when we want to change it. The external sources of pain and suffering (physical, emotional, mental, etc) may or may not disappear even when we make the move of turning towards the inside rather than the outside. But if we cannot change ego's script at will, we can put an end to the suffering that ego's script brings on us. God reminds us every day, in one way or the other, that the only real cure to pain (including death) is "God is" and nothing else is.

Looking outside for confirmation makes us believe that the body's senses inform us of what is going on in the outside world. We believe also deeply that judgment follows perception. But to acquire the inner vision, we have to reverse completely these statements. The body's senses don't "sense" anything if we aknowledge that we are only really experiencing our own script or movie. It is always the mind that is suffering. And what is suffering if not fundamentally a sense of being isolated, separated, a sense of lack in ourself?

We also have to reverse our thinking that judgment follows perception which means we have to acknowledge that perception follows judgment and not the other way around. What we perceive, through our body, of the outside world is the result of judgments our mind made prior to experiencing the perceptions of them and these perceptions are only the results or the effects of those judgments. In other words, we see what we projected to see.

And when we think about "sacrifice", isn't very equivalent to a call for pain?

This Heavenletter is definitely a good assignment for the weekend.

Oh, Normand, you stir my

On June 15th, 2012 Gloria Wen... says:

Oh, Normand, you stir my heart and mind. Stirring is good! It is powerful. What you write is powerful. Wow.

What have we not sacrificed, I wonder.

Beloved Normand, no assignments with Heavenletters™! No homework assigned. No have to's! Once we have read a Heavenletter, something sticks. That doesn't mean we can't do what we want to do! Now, I am going to read this Heavenletter again to see what I have missed. Thank you.

Dear Gloria, here is the

On June 15th, 2012 Normand Bo... says:

Dear Gloria,

here is the heart of this Heavenletter that ignated my comment:

"Your worth cannot be proved by the love given to you nor can your worth be disproved by love withdrawn. The fault in you is that you looked outside you for your sense of self-worth. No one but you is responsible for your sense of self-worth. I give it to you, and I do not withdraw My love and appreciation from you. But, even with Me, beloveds, as you know, you cannot look to Me to give you everything you want. I stay the same. My love for you stays the same, and yet, no matter how much I bless you, I do not give you everything you want. Life in the world is not always on your terms. You may do well to withdraw your terms."

May I translate this in Dutch?

On June 15th, 2012 Anneke says:

Dear Normand,

may I translate this in Dutch and post it with Heavenletter #4221 on my Hyves (something like Facebook)?

It really is not an easy lesson having breastcancer twice and a very loud tinnitus, and that is by far not all I've got physicaly.
It is the mind that is suffering, but how to change that?

love and light, ANneke
namasté

Dear Anneke, please go ahead

On June 15th, 2012 Normand Bo... says:

Dear Anneke, please go ahead with translating my post in Dutch. It is a pleasure. I would like to see a copy of it in Dutch as well.

Indeed it is not an easy lesson trying to understand how it is the mind that suffers. Yet the body cannot suffer by itself. It has to be connected to a conscience. And we "forgot" the terms of the contract we signed when we entered in our actual body.

That is why we cannot proceed with God's lessons the same way as we do with human lessons where there is a teacher and a pupil in two separate bodies. With God's lessons, we need to teach ourself in order to learn ourself. That seems weird but how can you learn Oneness if you don't teach Oneness to yourself?

This is a challenging "assignment". Gloria, there is nothing bad about assignment. We sometimes and often need them to move on. In fact, what I call assignment, you call it "stirring". It has the same purpose and the same effect.

Beloved Normand, I think of

On June 15th, 2012 Gloria Wen... says:

Beloved Normand, I think of assignment as something we have to do, that is imposed on us, like homework..

God has said there is nothing we have to do but be with Him.

Heavenletters™ are not made of lessons. They are made of love.

I don't want anyone new or old to Heavenletters to think there is anything they have to do. Normand, what you write is very compelling.

translation

On June 15th, 2012 Anneke says:

Dear Normand,

I read once: suffering is the rent the soul has to pay in order to live in a body......

I think now that suffering is a way the soul chooses, to remember what it has forgotten in previous lives:
We all are God!!

Here is my translation:

Normand Bourque, De Bron van Pijn, commentaar op Heavenletter #4221

We zouden bijna kunnen zeggen, zo niet absoluut kunnen zeggen, dat de bron van alle pijn en alle lijden, met inbegrip van fysieke pijn, uiteindelijk ligt in het kijken buiten onszelf om bevestiging dan wel uitsluiting van onze echte identiteit, die ook onze eigenwaarde is. De bron van alle ziekte, ondanks zijn schijnbaar meerdere variaties, heeft zijn oorsprong in het feit dat wij negeren wie we zijn of in het niet-erkennen van wie we zijn, door te zoeken naar bevestiging of spiegelen in de buitenwereld.
Het is geen gemakkelijke les om te integreren, want zelfs als we weten dat het ego alleen maar een script is van een film die we schrijven, erin acteren en er naar kijken op hetzelfde moment, kunnen we het niet per se veranderen als we het willen veranderen. De externe bronnen van pijn en lijden (fysiek, emotioneel, mentaal, etc) kunnen al dan niet verdwijnen, zelfs wanneer we de beweging maken naar de binnenkant in plaats van naar de buitenkant. Maar als we ego's script niet kunnen veranderen naar believen, kunnen we een einde maken aan het lijden dat ego's script tot ons brengt. God herinnert er ons elke dag aan, op de een of andere manier, dat de enige echte remedie tegen de pijn (inclusief de dood ) "God is" is en niets anders .
Naar buiten te kijken om bevestiging doet ons geloven dat de zintuigen van het lichaam ons op de hoogte houden van wat er gaande is in de buitenwereld. Wij geloven ook diep dat veroordeling volgt op waarneming . Maar om de innerlijke visie te verwerven, moeten we deze verklaringen volledig omkeren. De zintuigen van het lichaam "voelen" niet alles als we erkennen dat we alleen werkelijk ons eigen script of film ervaren. Het is altijd de geest die lijdt. En wat is lijden, anders dan een fundamenteel gevoel van geïsoleerd zijn, afgescheiden, een gevoel van gebrek in onszelf?
We moeten ook ons denken omkeren, dat oordeel volgt op waarneming, dat betekent dat we moeten erkennen dat waarneming volgt op oordeel en niet andersom. Wat we waarnemen, door ons lichaam, van de buitenwereld, is het resultaat van beslissingen die onze denkgeest gemaakt heeft over voorafgaande waarnemingen er over en deze waarnemingen zijn alleen de resultaten of de gevolgen van die oordelen. Met andere woorden, we zien wat we geprojecteerd hebben om te zien.
En als we denken aan "offer", komt dat niet erg overeen met aan een oproep voor pijn?
Deze Heavenletter is zeker een goede opdracht voor het weekend.

(vertaling Anneke)

love and light, namasté, ANneke

Thanks ANneke, even if I

On June 15th, 2012 Normand Bo... says:

Thanks ANneke,
even if I don't speak Dutch (I am a bit more comfortable in German), I can see that your translation is very close to the original text. Gloria must be proud to have such a good translator.

Proud, happy, sometimes

On June 15th, 2012 Gloria Wen... says:

Proud, happy, sometimes overwhelmed by the super translators we have. You included, Normand. Our translators go the extra mile.They really take hold. They naturally fall into place and make Heavenletters™ their own. They take initiative. They are beyond wonderful, truly a gift from God.

translation

On June 15th, 2012 Anneke says:

Dear Gloria, Dear Normand,

I am proud to be a translator, because it came to me on the right time in my life. God's Way.
It really is a big help for me in coping with life.

Dutch and German are totally different languages. I know them both very well......

A funny example: bellen means ringing in Dutch and barking in German.......

love and light, ANneke
namasté

I think God is also happy

On June 16th, 2012 Gloria Wen... says:

I think God is also happy that you translate and share your heart here on this forum.

love

On June 16th, 2012 Jack (not verified) says:

G'day Normand, The translation in Dutch is perfect, Anneke did a exelent job,.I find nowadays pain and suffering Is Gods way of telling me "Slow down Jack" wich to me is very hard as I have taking on a job and want to finish what I promissed. SO I go and see My friend for a massage, who also tells me to Slow down. So Today I am taking is easy. And Tomorow with 3 beatiful young German blonds I start work again. Another 1 and a half tonne to go after that I will find something else. Mieke my beloved is also overdoing it with her help but we will get there with Gods help. I know now how to get through it. At 80 climbing a 6 metre ladder and waving a 6-8 ft cutter is a bit harder than it was a few years ago but I stil manage and when GOD tells me to slow down I breath God in through my pain and God relents. I have found that what ever my discomfort is, God who is always with me,WILL HELP. Depending on my contract, if it ends I know I will be welcomed at the other side, as I was there 38 years ago and believe me. It was beautiful so I can never be scared of anything. I am happy even if a bit stiff and will survive with GOD. Love to you all Jack

Beloved Jack, you are so

On June 19th, 2012 Normand Bo... says:

Beloved Jack, you are so precious to us. You are an unfailing source of inspiration.

We thank you deeply.

P.S. Did you succeed in typing the °C sign?

 

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