Nancy O. to God:

Dear God, You have reassured us many times that You are always with us and that we are loved best by You. But I feel I need the love of people here and now.

While I have friends and relatives who are supportive and wonderful, I have no one to hug and kiss me and tell me I am special. Why do I need that?

Why do I have a hard time loving? I feel so defensive, and yet I know the solution is to go on the offense — to love first, which I try, but I have to confess the true feelings are not there.

Are the feelings of love "false"? Do we fall in love out of the physical and the emotional and not the truth of love?

Tell me about real love, God, love and what to expect of our fellows and how I can become more loving.

Thank You for Your guidance.

God to Nancy O.:

Dearest Nancy, become as water. Water does not expect something. Water just flows. Water doesn't try to be water. It doesn't try to act like water; it doesn't try to be more water. It doesn't try to be more of itself. It enjoys being.

It doesn't say: Why aren't I more like sand? Why don't I stay in one place? Why don't I have castles built on me?

Do not try to love, dear one, for as water is water, so are you love. Do not try to conjure love. Let it work its own will. No pushing, no pulling.

It is enough to have the intent to be what you are.

Love is power but it is not forceful. It is gentle. It is great tenderness. It comes at its own bidding. Love comes, and then you notice it. Love walks in the door, but it is better to not keep watching the door through which love enters.

Be innocent with love.

Love is not a flash.

Love grows.

It grows in silence.

My children want hugs and kisses. Then after a while, the hugs and kisses aren't so terrific, and you would just as soon not have them.

You crave a warm body next to yours. You have had that, and you know the worth of it. By itself, nothing.

Without the love that goes with it, the body is nothing. My children crave a body near them, but it is the love you crave, not the body.

No other person is going to fill your life for you.

Falling in love is exciting.

But love is calming.

From a place of quiet, be in love.

Oh, My children want and expect so much and get so little. Of romance I am speaking. For the most part, so little.

Don't ask so much of love.

Also do not settle.

Do not fool yourself.

The thing to know is that you don't have to have it on the worldly plane.

Often a husband is another possession like a home. A husband. "My" husband. You think he makes you complete. You are already complete.

It is better to know the truth that you do not need, for need puts love on the level of control. It makes it a commodity.

And, yet, how my children seek a love object. Look at that expression. Object of love. A thing of love.

Be the subject of love.

Someone will enter your life, and you will notice that he has entered. He will not enter with a cape or roses. He will enter as a simple human being. He may not be what you have thought he would be, but he will grow in your awareness. The packaging you thought important won't matter that much because love will have found a way. Better to have love grow than for it to dismantle.

It seems to Me, dear Nancy, that when people enter into a love arrangement or marriage, if they do it for themselves, it is not enough. Enter a liaison with Me in mind. Be one of two wishing to know Me through each other along the way of life. Love on earth has to be more than love on earth just as life on earth has to be more than life on earth.

Let your love go where it goes. Do not think too much that you have to be satisfied with Me alone. Have an earth companion. Just include Me. Let Me be your Consultant, Advisor, Mirror.

Remember you are more than physical. Look for the spirit of another. What you see is not always what you get. You know that. Look with different eyes. Don't get swept up. Check with Me.

Take your time. Don't rush in. Desire to be in your truth and not in your want, and desire that the other know his truth and that he be in it. And check with Me in your heart. Listen to your heart and Me. Come from that place of truth.

Nancy, I have to tell you that your question comes from the simple heart. There is no Ph.d. in your question. It comes from the pure heart of a child. You have put no defenses in your question, dear Nancy. You have laid it out, simple and clear. Your question could not have been stated more simply and clearly. Your question is your pure heart speaking. Your question is love. No veneer. No cover-up. No having to be something you thought it had to be. No adjusting your vulnerability. You simply asked your question from the sweet tenderness that you are. Stay in that place, dear Nancy.

That is trust. Stay in trust deep in your heart. I shall be watching over you. And I shall send a true heart to you. He will appear at the door of love when you are not looking. Keep your eyes on the moment of now.

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Kasie to Heavenletters and Abby:

I finally felt moved to write. It's not that I haven't been paying attention you know.

I was touched by Abby's letter about her absentee father and I am so happy that she had the strength and wisdom to turn to her true Father for healing.

My love to you Abby! Hugs and kisses.