Oh, To Be Free of Annoyance

God said:

Say, “Thank You, God,” even for the annoyances in your life. Why not? This is a good way to help annoyance leave.

The annoyance you experience is teaching you something. It could be teaching you that you pay too much attention to what gets in your way, whether it is a person or a computer or your car that won’t start. Is it possible that you give too much power to annoyances, as if they have some say over you?

When thorns prick you, perhaps you are too sensitive and make too much of them. In any case, the thing to do with annoyances is to let them go. Why keep them around in your mind to fester? Why go over them again and again in your mind? Soon enough, another appears. The last one recedes and a new one takes its place. It rankles you.

Beloveds, you reduce annoyances to size when you let go of them.

You may think of all kinds of retorts and all the unfairness of it. How fair are you to yourself when you let an annoyance rankle you?

Oh, to be free of annoyance. How lovely that would be! You would not go around being disturbed or perturbed. This is a choice that is yours. Perhaps, unwittingly, you have been a collector of annoyances. Other people have been misguided, you are sure, and they may well have been. Nevertheless, you have allowed yourself to be guided to annoyances. Who truly puts the reflections of annoyances before you? You do, beloveds, you do.

If a speck of dirt gets on your shirt-front, you flick it off. This is what you can do with all the pesky annoyances, all the things people should never have said. Flick them off. Really and truly, what do they have to do with you except as you say so? Of course, they may say so, too, yet that is their game, not yours. You don’t have to play. If you play, you must have chosen to play. Just as others, in their remarks, may not be so aware of what they are doing, so may you also be unaware of your collusion with them. How can it be that you are a co-conspirator, and, yet, what else can you be when you instantly turn over your thoughts to them and find yourself annoyed, so annoyed, so annoyed over someone else’s foolishness. This is what it comes down to, isn’t it?

There are those people from whom you want nothing but to be left alone. You don’t want their opinions of you. You don’t want their approval anymore than you want their disapproval. Who are they to set themselves up in judgment of you? That is your question, isn’t it? How dare they? They may think they are the judge and jury over you. And so you feel that they are sticking pins in you. Well, just pull those pins out, and set yourself free. After those who annoy you so much have let their remarks leave their mouth or their pen, it is you who carries it with you. It is you who gets it under your skin. It is you who keeps it going.

Find some other thoughts. Think of remarks people who love you make. This is turning the other cheek, beloveds. Think of the people who nourish you with their love and their Being.

When there is a song you don’t like, you take that one off the record player, and you put another one on. How hard is that to do?

Now that you have the idea, this is what you do. Do not accept annoyance into your life. And, if, you do, then replace annoyance with something more identifiable -- like love.

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thank you thank you very much

dear God heavenley father
i want to thank you so much to be free
in our annoyance its like a gulden day to day,
gift you given to as my Lord God,
thank you and thank very much dear God..

Where the real problem lies

I love the way Heavenletters give us little steps we can apply within our lives. Here is is pointed out how we must participate in the process if anything annoys us. It may be automatic and out of our awareness, but we play a key role when we become annoyed. We are given two simple steps here. Whenever we feel annoyed, we can look for our role. Whenever we feel annoyed, we can look to substitute something more worthy of our attention.

Love to all,

Chuck

I like the way you make this

I like the way you make this so clear and simple, Chuck! Thank you.

Hello Chuck, nice to meet

Hello Chuck, nice to meet you here again! I used to be annoyed pretty often. And God showed me just a few heavenletters before, that it is always my turn then. Every time, I feel annoyed about someone I just have to realize that I am fully responsible for my life. Nobody is in charge to help me to feel good. It is up to me, to take care of myself.
One example: For years and years I once in a while was upset, because my husband did not put off the mobíl phone during the night. And what do I do since a few days? I take care and look every evening, if the handy is off. So simple I am not angry, I am nobody giving the blame, I am pretty peaceful.. and my husband doesn't like me, turning off his mobil phone, so he starts doing it by himself all of the sudden. This is amazing to me. I will keep studying this!
God bless You! Uta

Dear Chuck, yes we play a

Dear Chuck,
yes we play a key role and we can look and focus on something else ! we can make a new choice because the "old" we know so well where they lead, don't we? It is really a matter of attention, of who we WANT to be I feel.
Personally, what helps me very much is knowing that each moment contains all possible worlds, meaning I can choose every possible future, and I can choose when I am aware instead of in a habitual reaction. It changes so much. just tiny steps but it changes so much and people around respond to kindness or calmness rather than annoyance. thanks dear and biggest hugs to you.

Thanks, everyone

Like Uta, I have been using these steps a lot to break my habits of being annoyed easily (I seem to have a lot). What I notice is that once a habit like Uta mentions is stopped, it seems to not come back, and I am the happier for it!

This is a topic that has been on my mind since it is the theme of a recent blog article I wrote (titled: Is the world real or is it an illusion?). I have restarted working on my book with a new approach, and I will be using this idea as a theme for the entire book. I think this blog article will eventually be the basis of the first chapter of my book.

I hope everyone is having a fantastic new year, love,

Chuck

Thanks dear Jack! I hope you

Thanks dear Jack! I hope you are having a fantastic new year too!
Reading your comment of today was joyful to me. It is such a good feeling, that others experience alike. That you write a book is a surprise! My respect - you are responsible not only for yourself! If we all could be aware of what Berit wrote before: "that each moment contains all possible worlds, meaning I can choose every possible future, and I can choose when I am aware instead of in a habitual reaction." , then this world would be a better one.
A thousand blessings!

 

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