Is an Affront Worth a Headline

Heavenletter #3520 Published on: July 15, 2010
God said:

Beloveds, now you are ready to get out of the influence of personal woe and heartache. Enough about you. Enough about your hurt feelings. Hurt feels are not to hold you back from fulfilling your mission on Earth. You have work to do, and I assure you it is not to treat your hurt feelings as the most important thing in the world. Hurt feelings are not a wonderful thing to have. I've said it before, and I'll say it again: What others may think of you is not relevant to your value. What others live up to or do not live up to is not the basis of your existence. I AM.

Think of Me and stop thinking of your sensitivity to how other people perceive you and treat you. What do they have to do with you and Me. Must you allow them to step in front of Us? You and I have a connection so deep and so wide and so high that next to Our connection, everything else takes second billing.

Other people's vision is their vision. If they are short-sighted, what does that have to do with you? You are not maligned. They are misinformed. You are not responsible for their being misinformed. It is not for you to inform them or reform them. They are in My care.

Remember Our connection. Make Our connection foremost. I know Who you are. I know the respect you are due. If someone else slights you, let it go. You are not on Earth for hurt feelings. You are on Earth for greater than that.

You may accuse others of smallness, and rightfully so, yet how big is it of you to let others' lacks impinge upon you?

Life is not a courtroom where cases are always decided, and decided in your favor. So what if the judge of your mind finds them guilty. They are guilty of being ignorant, the same as you.

You have a responsibility to be happy. Because someone else is misguided is no excuse for you to go off-track. Let go of your thoughts of the wrongs done to you. If someone has shot an arrow at you, pull it out, and let that be the end of it.

Is it that you want an apology or at least acknowledgement of their affront? What have you got when you've got it - more words that may or may not be reliable.

Where are you spending your time? If you have been spending it on feelings of ill-will, stop now. If you have felt you were dealt with badly, drop it. Let it go. Others' adoration of you is not necessary. You have My regard for you. Let that be enough,

Is a perceived affront to you worth a headline? HURT FEELINGS TODAY. How long will you go on and on about it?

Come to the point in life where you can say: So what? So what if someone spurns me? So what if I'm not appreciated? So what if they devalue me? So what?

If you must star in a headline, write this one: GOD LOVES ME. GOD HAS ALWAYS LOVED ME. GOD NEVER STOPS LOVING ME. I AM GOD'S.

Let no one's displeasure outweigh My pleasure. I take pleasure in you. I love you. I like you. I like you a lot. No more will you allow yourself to be aggrieved because others may not be all you desire.

Have your heart turn over a new leaf.

Help your heart to get out of the past. Hurt feelings are of the past. Now you step out of the past.

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AAmen

On July 15th, 2010 carmen (not verified) says:

dear God heavenley father,
for few days and now when am writteng this letter,
i feel ground of illnes, about my grand chaild son,
hes very sick and it's me i take care of hem,
and that my grand chaild you give a gift to my dother,
hes very sick now, i asking you my dear father to bless
to my grand son, and i wish deepley of my hearth,
et everything find around to my grand son, and for ever,
a goodt health for hem, and also to hes perince be calm,
and booth of os of fameley,
and your letter today you give me calm of my hearth and my tought,
thank you my loveng father for everything,
AAMEN

Beloved Carmen, may your

On July 15th, 2010 Gloria Wen... says:

Beloved Carmen, may your grandson be well, and your loving heart eased. All blessings to you and yours, Carmen of our hearts.

You have a responsibility to be happy

On July 15th, 2010 Jochen (not verified) says:

What others may think of you is not relevant to your value.

Yes, God, but the problem is not with current others so much. It lies with others who, during a time when we were not yet able to hold our own, taught us to devalue ourselves one way or another. At least that is how it was for me. Later in life, short-sighted and misinformed others become a problem only to the degree we have agreed to devalue ourselves when we were little. It is my old doubt about my own value that needs to go, my feeling of guilt and shame and inadequacy.

Only recently am I beginning to see that this is really the only problem I ever had: not being in complete agreement with myself. To the exact degree I am not embracing myself, others become a problem, health becomes a problem, wealth becomes a problem, age becomes a problem, the weather becomes a problem, God becomes a problem...

You and I have a connection so deep and so wide and so high that next to Our connection, everything else takes second billing.

Another yes, but. You see, as long as I don't feel the connection, how can I use Your headline even if I want to very much? If I try using it, I feel quite bad because it isn't true. And repeating it to make it true doesn't work at all. So we come back to the one issue I feel is fundamental: that of self-devaluation. Yes, "they" were wrong all along, part of me can see that clearly. But another part still believes they were right; it still feels deeply worthless and ashamed. Although You have addressed this in earlier Heavenletters, I never found anything, even in Your words, that looked like a possible solution to me. Until recently when I read a piece that was simple and tangible enough for my heart to leap into some recollection of its original true value. Since I love it so much, I will quote it here in part. It's about a little weed that says:
 
"By whatever name I am called, I have every right to be here. I was created, wasn't I? I will let nothing stop me, nothing daunt me, nothing discourage me, nothing make me feel out of place, for my place is wherever I am. And if I cannot stay right here, I will grow somewhere else. Regardless, I grow. I do not have to be adored by the world. I have my place in the sun, whatever the world may think."

http://www.heavenletters.org/what-do-you-say-to-life.html

"Another yes, but..."

On July 15th, 2010 Emilia says:

If you were really devalueing yourself, you wouldn't dare to argue with God as an old married couple.

Since I like you and your

On July 15th, 2010 Jochen (not verified) says:

Since I like you and your little objections a lot, I will try to think if bickering could be a sign of truly valuing oneself.

ehae old married couple

On July 15th, 2010 Jack from OZ (not verified) says:

Daer Emily. This old married couple (married 54 years) stopped arguing ages ago same as arguing with God that has stopped ages ago as well, mainly God wins all the time anyway, This old couple go to sleep holding hands. We respect each others ideas and are happy in oursrlves. Yes God, thanks for showing me the way. Love to all Jack
p.s. also thank you God for keeoing in touch through Heavens Letters Love you J&M

"stopped arguing...God wins all the time"

On July 15th, 2010 Emilia says:

Wise decision, I guess the same goes with your wife.

Quarantine

On July 15th, 2010 Charles Fi... says:

Jochen, you say "Yes, 'they' were wrong all along, part of me can see that clearly. But another part still believes they were right; it still feels deeply worthless and ashamed." Ah, I know the feeling.

Well, who is in charge here? Let's appoint that part of us that can see clearly. Full authorization, strong angelic backup. Let's devote a very large room for the purpose of confining those who insist on accusation. Not a place of punishment but a place where those who continue to accuse can be sequestered while they do their thing. Let there be amenities, it is not our purpose to return pain, but let the walls be thick and the door with a bar on our side. Let us put those who come to mind inside that room. As more come along, let them join the crowd. If they want to make a whole house out of the room, more power to them, but they can't come out the door unless you open it and allow it.

Perhaps they will get together by the door and shout their outrage and unpleasantness. Let them, the door is thick and you shouldn't hear more than a faint murmuring unless for some reason you want to spend your time standing at the door with your ear up against it. Perhaps they will slip a cardboard cutout apparition of themselves under the door pretending to be them. Just put it in a pile for recycling. You may need to use your angelic backup for stubborn ones.

Now as to that part of us that still believes those others were right, perhaps that part will come to its senses, or perhaps it will need to spend time sequestered with the rest. We can decide that, we are in charge here. If we stop by from time to time and find all is quiet, perhaps we might want to open the door to see if anyone wants to come out agreeing to mind their own business and leave you in peace. If it turns out to be a ruse or something they can't help doing, you can simply return them to the room.

Possibly if we do this and get a little peace and quiet we might come up with refinements and improvements.We might even learn to hear the approaching footsteps of those who like to tip toe up and whisper in our ear before we know they are there. Who knows, we might even learn to do all of this in a firm spirit of love.

I had to think about your

On July 15th, 2010 Jochen (not verified) says:

I had to think about your stimulating words, Charles. There is no doubt I have been doing some individualized version of what you describe, and I don't know anyone who is not doing it to a greater or lesser degree. In a downpour or hailstorm, any shelter is a very good thing. But what about afterwards? Do I nail a roof to my head to make sure I will never get quite so badly drenched or battered again? I tried to. It hurt awfully. So some distance may be necessary or even life-saving, but I tremble at the very thought of thick walls and bars. For what was it that made me susceptible to their wrongness in the first place? Was it just helplessness? Was it not also love? I cannot wait until anyone starts seeing more and behaving better. I did, of course; I demanded it. But I really want total openness NOW, and if "they" don't want it, what can I do but go there alone first?

Who are "they"? Some are outside, but the bigger problem are the ones inside. They are not going to change their ways behind bars. The have not for all the years of my life. Behind bars, it is not difficult for them to keep me believing they are right about me. What if they simply evaporate once I break down those amenable quarantine quarters? Wow, what a scene! I can't afford not to try.

I realize I'm not being very consistent. What I'm trying to say is that I have done all the construction work you speak about, only finding it's not working and, most of all, not what I want. I bet it's not what you want in the end. Thank you, my friend, for bringing this up.

Yes, Jochen, what I suggest

On July 16th, 2010 Charles Fi... says:

Yes, Jochen, what I suggest is not ideal but maybe more something of a meantime solution, a means of getting a little relief long enough to be able to relax and start thinking more clearly. As you point out, most of this is internal. Probably much of it goes back to an early age when we were programmed without being aware it was going on. I expect most of it was done with good intention or at least without conscious malice, tho maybe not always.

Whatever the mechanism, I believe the point is to take charge and stop being at the mercy of those voices and pointing fingers. I have seen the suggestion of simply shouting "Scat!!!", as in shooing off a cat, when they show up. Again, all this is internal. A real life situation would probably call for different means tho I suppose you could shout "Scat" at people too. Probably wouldn't get away with locking real people up in a room.

Charles and Jochen have a good thing going.

On July 15th, 2010 George Mon... says:

Your thinking stimulates me.

George

Stop it ...

On July 15th, 2010 Chris Mack... says:

Ah Gloria, dearest, this puts me in mind of a little video clip, which in a very lighthearted way shows us how to let go of things that are troubling us. It might sound flippant but is in fact very deep ..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BYLMTvxOaeE&eurl=http://www.scienceofgett...

Love to you, as ever

Chris

Dearest Gloria, Each time I

On July 15th, 2010 Rev. Nagi Mato (not verified) says:

Dearest Gloria,

Each time I am blessed by your Heavenletters I am reminded of things I've learned from well-known spiritual notables and their gurus. For example, this Heavenletter speaks of non-attachment and being here now.

Thank you for all that you do!

Ah, beloved Rev. Nagi Mato,

On July 15th, 2010 Gloria Wen... says:

Ah, beloved Rev. Nagi Mato, Truth is Truth from wherever it comes. The list is long of those who have written about non-attachment and being present. It is not new.

Please post often, dear one.

Gloria has God shout: "Order in the court!!!!"

On July 15th, 2010 George Mon... says:

Then, lovingly and laughingly God says: "Now, beloved one, what would you like to order today, in the Now?" Were so shocked by this love that we have to read Heaven Letters to know what to order. Our darling Gloria has a way of letting God tell us what we really want.

George

 

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