Beyond All Borders

Heavenletter #2871 Published on: October 4, 2008
God said:

If there were no attachment, there would not be suffering. If you could take even death of beloved ones in your stride, where would attachment live? Because of Human attachment, you think something terrible has happened when a loved one dies. You mourn the whole concept of death of the body, as if the existence of the body were everything. I know that death of the body is big for you. I know that suffering is big for you.

Attachment is not the same as love, beloveds. Love transcends attachment. Love does not possess. Attachment is attachment. You have thought to yourself many times: "I cannot live without this person." That is attachment, beloveds.

Attachment makes your loved ones some kind of property, like a treasured gold coin that is your lucky piece. How could you go on without it? Of course, the gold coin is only representative of your good fortune. It is like a placebo. And so it is with your beloveds. You think they are necessary to you. You think they are the cause of your happiness, and in death or in leaving in any manner, they are the cause of your unhappiness. You put too much at stake upon their existence.

Oh, yes, of course, your loved ones are important, and they are important to you. Their being important to you isn't exactly the same as your being dependent on them. Your dependence is a thought you have attached yourself to. It is like luggage you carry. You attached a leash to a suitcase. You attach a chain to a loved one, a golden chain but a chain nevertheless.

Your life is dependent upon you, and your life is dependent upon Me. It is not dependent upon anyone else.

Go ahead and love for all you are worth, and be not attached. Attachment says there is something you HAVE to have. It seems brutal to you to say that you don't have to have your mother or father or husband or wife or son or daughter, yet that is the case. Love is not bounded. Love is not a lasso. Love exists on another plane. Deep inside, you really know that. Deep inside, you know that love is more than worldly. Deep down, you know that love is much more than ownership.

Being connected to a loved one is not the same as being attached. Two souls meet, and if souls had eyes, I would say that their eyes lit up in recognition. The souls lit up in recognition of the blessing each would bestow upon the other. With love, there is no list of demands. Love exacts no requirements. Love does not become attached. Love lets go. Love removes all the cages from the heart of man and the heart of woman. Love removes cages.

The one you love is not to be put in a cage. Your love is to free him. And if your loved one flies away to another country or to another dimension, you give your loved one the gift of freedom. Free as a bird, your loved one flies away to his destiny. Bid him adieu.

You send your child off to school, and you blow kisses. And if your child should leave the planet Earth, then it is for you to blow kisses the same.

You can love without attachment, beloveds. When you are without attachment, you will not have losses. Life on Earth will not hit you over the head. You will not have blows in life. There will be goodbyes, but not blows. There will be love extending beyond all borders.

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Yes Gloria :o) Dear God I

On October 4th, 2008 God`s child (not verified) says:

Yes Gloria :o)
Dear God
I have done it before and I will do it again today. I cannot cope with this anymore. As much I love him I will do it. I am so afraid that something is going to happen to him. That`s the last thing I want. I just want him to be happy no matter what he is choosing to do and who he is choosing to be. I love David enough to set him free. I want him so much to find peace and happiness even if it`s not with me. I have tried to do the same many times before, but he won`t leave. I have loved him as much as I can to one piece, but maybe I am not the one who can do that. I realize this. I agree that love is not demanding anything and I am not demanding that my relationship with David is going to work. What I do feel is that our relationship in the shape and form it is today is not working. I cannot be or do anymore. I will set him free. I do not want anyone to be a prisoner or tied up in any way. That`s the same reason why there will never be a book with all sorts of rules and regulations to follow, because I want human beings to BE ,free to be individuals as well as part of the collective love. Free to find their own way of working for peace. Free will to BE connected. No-one ever has to obey by any rules. No-one has to follow anyone to be whole, just follow their very own inner being. No power over anyone. I am amazed that people have followed the rules and regulations of others for so long, when all everyone has to BE is to BE aware of what lies within themselves. It`s already there. No-one has to be anyone`s master or hero. You can BE your very and truly own master and hero. That`s the only thing that will set anyone free to BE, to feel, see and hear the true, loving voice of their own Heart.

Love from the deepest of my Being

thankyou

On October 4th, 2008 Libby (not verified) says:

This is such Truth and a Truth that needs to be remembered here in this 3D illusionary reality. The things we love to enjoy add another dimension to our Loving but are not necessary for any completion. We are already complete Within and Without.

I am so enjoying reading your letters....I have only been receiving them for a week and they bring me joy and gentle reminders.

I especially loved and enjoyed The Determinants of Life....that gave me a wonderful jolt back into my heart.

With gratitude and love

Libby

Happy to have you here, dear

On October 4th, 2008 Gloria Wen... says:

Happy to have you here, dear Libby. Looking forward to more of your posts!

your words,

On October 4th, 2008 demaluna says:

God father heaven and aerth,
just only i can say my words to your letter, it de glory of aerth, your heaven
letter it our gift you give to us en evry humanbeing, and also your music it wontherful,
oh dear God thank you so much all your gift you give to us, to your chaildren,
and i love you lord God,
deep in my hearth
and thank you in my life you give to me,

Carmen

This could not have come at

On October 4th, 2008 Linda (not verified) says:

This could not have come at a better time and I thank you.........5 years ago today I lost a very special person in my life and as I was sitting at the computer this morning the time of death appeared on my screen......10/04-- at 10:04 was the passing.........I sat I prayed I talked to him, I sent my love I hurt, I cried, I told him one day I would be there to hug him again........and then I settled down enough to open your letter..........It was as if God had heard my prayer saw my tears and was answering me personally -- THANK YOU..........for helping me realize that it is ok for some one to pass on --- that the hurt and I can't live without feeling is REAL but not necessary......that God understands and will bring us comfort..........thank you thank you thank you for sharing with me and thank GOD for hearing my voice.......
Linda

"as if God had heard my prayer +

On October 4th, 2008 George Mon... says:

Sweet Linda:
Your letter helped me honey, Thanks

George, of the LIGHT

Hello God :o) Come to think

On October 4th, 2008 God`s child (not verified) says:

Hello God :o)

Come to think of a program I watched the other day on TV. I only watched some of it. I think it was in America. There was a group of human beings with various forms of handicaps. They were traveling about 10 km a day for about 10-14 days. One was deaf, some were in wheelchairs, paralyzed from the waist down or from the chest down. Some of them had lost their limps and they were walking on prosthesis, getting blisters and a lot of pain. Sean my son of 10 years were watching the program together with me. He didn`t feel like watching it because it was getting too much. It was getting very emotional for me too, but a good lesson. They were walking on very uneven ground, almost hopeless for them. They probably couldn`t have picked a more obvious way of coming closer to their own emotions and facing their own handicap. They showed achievements and willpower beyond any human beings imagination of what is possible to go through. Their handicaps were thrown in their faces time and time again. They tried to master their own life, to BE their very own heroes, to conquer what life had given them. They did it themselves. It was no less than awesome, and I was very touched. What about walking up the red carpet for these people.

Love you always :o)

"You can love without attachment, beloveds."

On October 4th, 2008 George Mon... says:

Attachment seems to be a wonderful concept but in real life attachment take the form of needing the one you're holding.
As my daring of 64 years passed her final exam and graduated to her destiny right in my arms, I had no desire to blow her kisses.
To say goodbye sounds easy but when it come right down to it, the concept of "WITHOUT HER" smothered my consciousness.
Now it's a year and a half since she laughing said "Now cuddle me." knowing that she was leaving and the memory is sweet but the hurt reminds me of the treasure she was for all those year. There is a sense in which I still have her with me, but that's a consciousness I invent to pretend that a form of comfort is now her darling self. There is a way that Life on Earth did hit me over the head so I lift it high and say thank you Lord for what I had and what I have left and for heavenletters to keep me dog-paddling right along.

George in the glistering of a new light

amen

On October 4th, 2008 at1ment says:

:)

God's Wisdom & Love goes Beyond all Boundaries

On October 4th, 2008 Dreamhealer says:

I just translated this Heavenletter to Spanish and I was delighted! Since my mother's been living with me our relationships gets tense every now & then, because she's attached to people and to material things. She is a wonderful & beautiful person. The thing is she hasn't realized how valuable she is, how much love she has to give!
How many of us have lived attached to things, but the most painful attanchment of all is to loved ones. Is like carrying a shackle, a heavy burden that keeps us from growing up, from goin on with our lives, from being the best of us. Even this attachment impedes us from helping our loved ones when they're in need. Nothing like being free & letting others free. Our lives become lighter and we discover all the LOVE that we actually have and we are!
God has sent this Heavenletter when time & circumstances are right...for both of us now. Thank you, dear God...thank you for all that You Are and for your LOVE that goes beyond all boundaries.

In Love & Light

Dreamhealer

Dearest Dreamhealer, yes, it

On October 4th, 2008 Berit says:

Dearest Dreamhealer,

yes, it keeps us from being the best of us. This expesses it really excellently !

You are as beautiful (saw your photo!) and wondeful as your mother and your love will go beyond all boundaries indeed. Moms are really a most wonderful creation of God !! ...also Dads of course, and .... :-))

much much love
Berit

Thank you!!!

On October 6th, 2008 Dreamhealer says:

Thank you so much, Berit. I totally agree...Moms, Dads, all our loved ones and everybody around us have their own & personal beauty. We only have to look through the eyes of the heart more than with the physical.

In Love & Light

Dearest George and

On October 4th, 2008 Berit says:

Dearest George and Linda,

God really cuddles you now and forever and really holds you tight. The beauty with God's Heavenletters is that they arrive at the perfect moment even when you read them at random choice or in delay. There's really not one single heart beat or thought that God isn't aware of.
This is really a vital topic, an amazing Heavenletter.

A tender hug to both and soft love waves.

Berit

The thing is you can be

On October 5th, 2008 Marko says:

The thing is you can be unattached and still miss and morn your loved ones physical and emotional presence. Even if you communicate with spirits on the other side it's just not the same.

You miss them, morn them, it's a natural emotion and perhaps un-natural to not miss and morn the presence you best know them by.

Being non or less attached may make it easier than being attached, but you still feel bad and morn their loss even as you believe they are in a much better place.

This is simply true, Marko.

On October 5th, 2008 Jochen (not verified) says:

This is simply true, Marko. I like your words very much.

There is a feeling of quiet togetherness on this particular page that is very touching.

So how can I understand nonattachment in a way that makes it sound less of a task? Life has not asked me yet to come to terms with serious loss (except when I was little), but the mere thought of it..... And what about myself leaving while the birds stay and sing (as it says in a Spanish poem that just came to mind)? Perhaps love is to grow beyond all borders into the unthinkable where we are the lost loved one and the birds and everything else.

Those who ask, will answer - those who answer, will ask

On October 5th, 2008 theophil says:

There is always and everywhere One who answers, immediately, in a blink, effortless, quietly, without circumstances. The One Who answers asks The One who asks questions, to answer questions.

And, as we can see it in the last few lines - the One did it ... "love is to grow beyond all borders into the unthinkable where we are the lost loved one and the birds and everything else" ... said The Love.

So, is there a question? Is there a question, Who Are We?

Theophil

"Perhaps love is to grow

On October 5th, 2008 Gloria Wen... says:

"Perhaps love is to grow beyond all borders into the unthinkable where we are the lost loved one and the birds and everything else."

Are there sweeter words anywhere in the Universe?

"Perhaps love is to grow"

On October 5th, 2008 George Mon... says:

Then Darling Gloria invites us to "think" "the unthinkable". That;s like dreaming the undreamable dream, Or doing the undoable task. Only those who see, KNOW what Darling Gloria is urging us toward. Thanks sweet ones

George my neck is loosening up

1 Heavenletter Haiku for

On October 5th, 2008 Alohalight... says:

1 Heavenletter Haiku for you

Hello Friends,

God said love lets go
And you blow kisses the same
Kisses of freedom

Love, Light and Aloha!

Personal Godwriting

On October 5th, 2008 Gloria Wen... says:

This morning, in my personal Godwriting, I asked God about the grief someone I know is going through about a good man who decided their lives must part.

I said to God::
This person is really going through it.

God said:
And she will come out of it.

Gloria:
And, God, my heart. I'm not so sure about my heart either.

God:
Do you know what, Gloria, it doesn’t matter. You are working for Me, and that matters.

Gloria:
Thank You, dear God. I think I understand. God, on the forum, people seem to be a little taken aback by Heavenletter # 2871 Beyond All Borders. We do suffer when a loved one dies etc. It is not only that we can’t help it; it is as though we must, as if we're swept up in a tide.

God:
Many must, Gloria. Perhaps all. As they believe, so it is.

Gloria:
I think of all the people I mourn, the days I mourn, how all that was will not be again.

God:
And that is how you believe, that people and things must be missed. I do not suggest that anyone deny their grief. I suggest that grief does not have to be. Grief does not have to triumph. Even those who mourn see others who mourn and never stop mourning, who stay in a mourning mode and do not go on with their lives, as though trapped in time – even mourners see that the depth and extent of another’s mourning may have gone on too long. They see that the need for mourning has outlived itself.

But, again, do not bemoan even your attachment to mourning. You are all doing fine.

In George’s case, he had a beautiful relationship, and his beautiful Adaire no longer is on Earth to share his worldly life. She is not here in the physical. She is missing from the world. She does not make him breakfast nor sit across from him. This is too terrible to contemplate, and yet it is the case every day. There is an empty chair and a gap in beloved George’s day to day life. And yet it is clear, through the tears, that George is moving on. He is not leaving his beloved partner of so many years, his love is not departing. His heart yearns, and his heart has. Whatever the hold sadness has, George is not stuck in it.

Over time, Our beloved Jim has transcended his grief. He has risen above. He truly sees from a greater perspective now. He was blessed to have, and now he is blessed even in what is seen as great loss to not have. In life it is not to have and to hold. In life, it is to have, so to speak, and to let go.

You are transcending time, beloveds.

thank you for your share,

On October 5th, 2008 demaluna says:

dear Gloria and God,
thank you for your share of us your conbersasion,
i have lost my very clost freind to , few weeks a go,
it rely hurt,, but life keep going aslong as alive,
book of God and heaven letter de helf so much in my life
and i seid to my self if nothing God im also nothing,
that all i can say,
love and life

Carmen

Beloved Carmen, I do not

On October 5th, 2008 Gloria Wen... says:

Beloved Carmen, I do not know how to say how much your words touch me. You are so real, and you are right there with God and so understanding.

God bless you always.

Wow I didn't expect to see

On October 5th, 2008 Marko says:

Wow I didn't expect to see the extra energy around this that I did after posting.

Some really beautiful things are being said. I like the continuation and after thoughts given.

We grieve not so much for the others who've gone on, but for us who miss them to what ever degrees we do.

Our grief and sadness is really love. Love for that person. It's our love, expressed in sadness, so sadness can be love expressed. That's a good thing.

One more thing........

On October 5th, 2008 Marko says:

One more thing.

If we desire and allow it, life will bring us other people into our lives to fill the void. When my dad passed on many years ago another man came into my moms life that really was wonderful for her.

Not all people may need this, but it certainly seems to happen a lot and very appreciated by the people to whom it happens to.

My personal feeling: No one

On October 5th, 2008 Gloria Wen... says:

My personal feeling: No one fills the void.

You can remarry, have another child, gain happiness, but no one takes the place of the one who died. No one.

Marko, what you write

On October 5th, 2008 Gloria Wen... says:

No matter how I try, I can't make my response go where I want it to.

Marko, I meant this appear, not after your comment where it seems to insist on appearing, but after your comment when you say it's ourselves we mourn for.

In that comment of yours, what you write reminds me of a poem by Gerald Manley Hopkins. We read it in my ninth grade classes, as I remember.

to a young child

Margaret, are you grieving
Over Goldengrove unleaving?
Leaves, like the things of man, you
With your fresh thoughts care for, can you?
Ah! as the heart grows older
It will come to such sights colder
By & by, nor spare a sigh
Though worlds of wanwood leafmeal lie;
And yet you wíll weep & know why.
Now no matter, child, the name:
Sorrow's springs are the same.
Nor mouth had, no nor mind, expressed
What héart héard of, ghóst guéssed:
It is the blight man was born for,
It is Margaret you mourn for.

"My personal feeling: No one

On October 5th, 2008 Marko says:

"My personal feeling: No one fills the void."

Well I don't disagree with that my dear Gloria, that's true. We are all unique snowflakes of life. No one fills the void in the same way as another.

Yet people, animals, friends etc., come and go, and to me, meet our needs of that moment. Some do it longer, some shorter. Some perhaps always, some perhaps never.

Of course, if say a women had a loving but not very affectionate husband and after he goes, she then meets and marries a man who is not only loving but gives her the affection she always desired but couldn't or didn't get with her previous husband,--well,--In that sense her void (or need/desire if you will) is even more fulfilled than before.

Thanks for the poem we all appreciate it and you. Blessings to all.

Gotcha, dear Marko. I'm all

On October 5th, 2008 Gloria Wen... says:

Gotcha, dear Marko.

I'm all for everyone getting all the happiness they can.

Dear Gloria, Thank you for

On October 6th, 2008 Alohalight... says:

Dear Gloria,

Thank you for posting this thoughtful poem. It reminds me that even though our beloved ones may have moved on beyond our physical sight they still find ways to connect with us if we are open enough to realize it. I still miss my best friend and confidante who was named "Margaret" in her lifetime. And like you I feel that "no one fills the void". I also know through receiving Heavenletters and through the shared experiences of Heavenreaders in this community and elsewhere, that one day everyone will be together enjoying each other once again, laughing and congratulating OurSelves for Being such great participants in this thing called life.

Love, Light and Aloha!
Karen

"You are transcending time, beloveds."

On October 5th, 2008 George Mon... says:

Darling Gloria:

Your letter granted me many tears of love, joy, understanding, release, and a host of other insights that come and go like fairy dust in a Disney Movie. The only difference is that Your words, Gloria, were not make believe, they went right to my heart where you and God talked with me about the life I have learned to live day by day.
Each night just before hopping into bed I stand before my bathroom mirror and point at the guy in the mirror and ask God to enjoy him, bless him and simply continue to do life to him as GOD has always done it. I thank HIM for what's left of this very old frame, stroke and all. His omniscience, omnipresence, omnipotence know what I need before I ask, so I simply make love to HIM and to the one in the mirror.
Do I miss my Adaire? Sure, that's God's divine plan and part of the eternal JOY in my heart. I am very happy that she is not bent over with pain, or struggling to breathe but has returned to the foreverness that belongs to all of us.
This is living in the Presence of the One I have known all my life. It rises above religion, ideas, dogmas, to the sort of thing that Darling Gloria demonstrated to us, so beautifully, in the PERSONAL GODWRITING post above.
The guy in the mirror shouts back at me: "Don't forget to bless Gloria with waves of love tonight!" How blessed the world is, to see the real handwriting on the wall of our consciousness.
God's reply to her tells it like we know it is: " You are working for Me, and that's all that matters." Thanks sweet one, you are a dream to all of us.

George, in love with Gloria's God

What a fine example of God's

On October 5th, 2008 Gloria Wen... says:

What a fine example of God's vision you are, dear George. How could God conceive one like you, beautiful soul?

"How could God conceive one like you, beautiful soul?"

On October 5th, 2008 George Mon... says:

Dearest Gloria:
At last count there were about 8 billion of us on earth in various stages of awakening.

George more in love

8 billion?

On October 5th, 2008 Marko says:

Actually I think it's closer to 6 billion isn't it?

World Population Clock

On October 6th, 2008 Jochen (not verified) says:

6,728,24X,XXX
http://www.census.gov/main/www/popclock.html

Thank you everyone...

On October 6th, 2008 Jim Keller says:

Thank you all so much...for your presence, for your words. Something or someone is removed from our lives, and we are sent on a journey of grief. All the while, life continues...except grief becomes a companion for a while...or even for a long, long time. We can allow grief to seemingly spoil our lives and even others. Yet if we treat grief as a loving companion...to respect it...to follow it...to see where it leads us...to love it yet allow it its space..., With a healthy honoring of grief, we honor Life. With a healthy honoring and acceptance of Death...we honor Life.. Grief is the wake of death. We can appreciate and learn from this wake...or we can allow it to topple us over...to seemingly even drown us and even others we love.

Thank you everyone here for your presence and your words. We are all beloved childreen of God...and when we loose one another, we appear to loose the ones we cherish...and this appearance of loss is very convincing. But...but...but...there are always more of us to cherish and love...and even if all others dissappear, we can love this vast face of God's blue sky during day...and her sparkling freckles during night.

When I dare to love all of you always...I am really, really loving God. Who are you really? Why you are nothing but God's Love. That...is saying a lot!!!! From One Love to another, Jim.

"Thank you everyone..." by Jim Keller

On October 6th, 2008 George Mon... says:

Precious Jim:

How on earth do you put together such beautiful words? They rest on my aching heart like a child's blankie that gives comfort, fragrance and a sense of being THERE My heart and soul says THANK YOU for those words of LIGHT.

George, snuggling under your words.

Dear Jim, loving YOU always

On October 6th, 2008 Berit says:

Dear Jim,

loving YOU always !

Berit

"I think it's closer to 6 billion isn't it?"

On October 6th, 2008 George Mon... says:

Sweet, Sweet Marko and Nimble Jochen:

When a student caught me in a mistake, or misstatement, many years ago, I would invite him or her to my office and give him or her a cup of hot chocolate and thank them. So sweet friend, I owe you a cup of hot chocolate and a thanks for upgrading my fragile memory about stuff. You're wonderful!

George being upgraded by angels.

Beyond All Borders

On April 4th, 2010 Berit says:

Attachment is not the same as love, beloveds. Love transcends attachment. Love does not possess.

freshly born from the Heavenletter Generator, divine timing once again !

Much love
Berit

THANK YOU!

On January 28th, 2011 Nicki (not verified) says:

What is coming I do not know, but these words are a balm to my aching heart. I feel a transition coming upon us and words like these are helping me to prepare for it. God is here with me guiding me and along the path I am finding amazing people, words and comforts that I had no idea existed. Thank you for being servants of our Lord, the things you all do are precious and priceless.
I feel your love across the miles, how great is our God!!!

LuvNHugz - SupportNPrayerz
NMV

Beloved Nicki, where do you

On January 28th, 2011 Gloria Wen... says:

Beloved Nicki, where do you live across the miles?

Thank you for posting -- and so beautiful.

 

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