A Mind Made Up

God said:

Because you are good and caring doesn't mean that you have to waste your breath. In the relative world, people may consider what you have to say according to its value or their value of you. Too often, it happens that your pearls of wisdom are seemingly tossed away. You may be absolutely right, and still your wisdom is tossed away as if it were nothing at all.

You may even state the obvious. It is as if you point out a misspelling. The person you point the misspelling out to says: "I like the way I spell this word. It feels right to me." You could bring in the dictionary, and the person wouldn't want to concede because he likes to do things the way he does them. What is this?

You want to help your child or a friend. They may even have asked for your advice. And you give it. You mean to make their life go more smoothly, or even save them grief. Let's face it, they want to do it their way, which is often the hard way. They want to do it their way, as if something about their way is sacred. They will hang on to their way for dear life. The fact is they don't want to hear what you have to say. They like their misspellings. You could be a thousand per cent right, and still, they like their misspellings.

And you who are nodding your head right now and perhaps clucking with your tongue, do you not also have a soft spot in your heart for your misspellings?

You say you are listening to your heart. I say you may be holding onto an idea in your head. You're protecting your infallibility. You will accept praise with alacrity, but not advice, even when you invited it. You have your mind made up. Your mind made up is a closed mind, dear ones. Sometimes it has happened that you don't even listen to your own sage advice.

It is like you want to go to San Francisco in a hurry, and a truck driver marks on a map for you the route he takes twice a month, and then you say to yourself: "But I like it this other way."

Of course, you are free to go to San Francisco by any route you like and be late, and yet why did you ask the truck driver for his advice?

You have free choice to listen or not listen. You have the choice to waste someone else's time and your own or not.

Perhaps you could kindly make clear in advance that you would like to know what is good about the decision you have already made.

On the other hand, if you do honestly want to learn something, and the free advice asked for and given isn't what you like, if you are sincere, you can ask questions like: "Why do you suggest this? How do you see the two different scenarios? What outcome do you see ...?"

When you ask for more information, whatever you decide, you have honored the person who honored you.

If you are the advice-giver, and your advice is true, and the other person doesn't listen, can't or won't, who has the difficulty, beloveds? It is not the other person's difficulty. It is yours.

Value yourself as much as you value the person who has asked for your input and whom you have wanted to help. You are worth the time you give away to someone else. Make good use of your time. If you are repeatedly asked for your assessment, and your response is repeatedly glossed over, then it's time you gave yourself some good advice.

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a closed mind

This Heavenletter is quite amusing and also sad. The crucial issue is whether or not we honestly want to learn something, whether or not we are able to sincerely ask: "Why do you suggest this?" So often when a suggestion is not to our liking, the trashing of it is immediate and automatic, and we do not even notice it, never mind asking sincere questions about the suggestion made. Truth, even the tiny truth of a misspelling, so often isn't wanted. As if we were undermining ourselves by sincerely considering anything that suggests we might be less than infallible. Are our difficulties with small and medium-sized awkward truths indicative of our shying away from the big one? I believe they are. And all the quarrels and all the silent resentment about suggestions not taken or not even considered are sham fights deflecting everyone's attention from the real issue which, of course, is love. Strange that love isn't mentioned in this Heavenletter.

I think love is the

I think love is the allowance behind this Heavenletter. I mean to do our best when we see some in difficulty, and our best when some suggests something to us, wether asked or not, and love is the allowance that everyone is free to listen, pick and choose what might seem the truth to us in that moment, or .... to close and go on as previously defined by our mind and ideas.
indeed, listening, really listening and putting ourselves in the shoes of another, wether advise is given or received, or whatever is shared, is not that easy. Love permitts us really to want to see from the others point of view and love permitts us to let go, at least that is what I feel... but ... open to new suggestions and views :-)))
much much love
Berit

the other way

Well the trucky tells me the way to San Francisco, Is that the way I want to go, as fast as the trucky? Maybe I want to see some scenery and the long way might give me that. So Trucky thank you for your advise. How much longer you think it would take me if I go the scenic route ? Well thanks Mate,I will see how much time I have available and make up my mind then. Thanks again and have a nice day. Will any one be peaked about that ? Does it matter how I go to San Francisco. A spelling Mistake might even give more emphasis on what you want to express. For love??? I find the tone of the whole letter Loving advice from Father to child. So Let us agree to disagree and go on loving All Heaps. Jack

A spelling Mistake...

Jack, that must be why I love the typos in Heavenletters...

And.. no, it does matter how you go to San Francisco, indeed enjoying the scenery on a secondary route might bring you to experiences which you would not make by going the Highway.
it is so freeing to allow that life just flows and that we make our choices.
We can't get it wrong and we can't get it done, life is creation in motion.

Oceans of love to you dear
Berit

Once again you see my soul...

what can I say, as of late I've felt the need to try and open people eyes to what I believe is a greater reality of what is going on around us, the unseen world, the esoteric aspects of life, I've been posting away on my facebook about all kinds of things that challenge the corporate, political structures just to hope to get people open to a point that I can start to talk about more esoteric aspects of life without sounding like a complete fruitcake.

I've experienced such an awakening over the last 7 years I can't even tell you, my spiritualness has grown exponentially, my understanding or (my perception of that lol) has grown considerably and yet, your words on this ring so true for me, I only recently started to open my own mind and really listen to opposition, without that ability how can any of us really communicate? We just talk and words bounce off the eardrums of those that we think are listening, or we write and after a few words they already know the intent of the rest and don't even bother reading just react to the gist of what they felt.

I believe we can rise above these reactions, I believe we can learn to really listen, understand, weigh and learn from each other, but it does come with a paradigm shift. The more I listen, the more my views morph.

Hug hugs!
Lance

Yes Lance, I too believe we

Yes Lance,
I too believe we can rise above old re-actions and really listen. I think love does it, love is the glue or bridge, love enables us to share, to see the beauty in walking together through life and allow each and everyone his or her own choices and truth. In sharing we enrich and are enriched.

tender hugs to you
Berit

 

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