Let Your Children Be

God said:

Sometimes you make correlations that are not to your benefit nor to the benefit of your children, and you speak them. You say certain combinations of words more than once. They are habits of speech. They are predictions you make. You may not realize what you are saying. This may be especially true as you raise your children.

Be careful what you are putting into the minds of your children and what you are echoing to the Universe. You may want to bite your tongue. Increase the range of what you say to Our children who depend upon you.

Sometimes you create what you don’t want. You might say to your child at meals: “If you don’t eat, you will get sick.” You may say: “Good boys eat.” You may say: "You want Santa Claus to come to you, don’t you?” You draw conclusions. You make one thing dependent upon another. You make conditions.

Your child will grow up and not remember your words, and yet, as an adult, the unremembered cautions may set off a mechanism within him that make him eat too much or have indigestion. He wants to be the good boy who grows up to be a good man. Your edicts may follow him.

The words you say to your children may predict their future. What are your expectations, and what are you saying? Better to say nothing than to program your child in the ways you don’t want him to go. Attribute health to your children.

Children absorb what you say into their cells. You may think they are not absorbing at all. You may forget. Your children may forget and yet, somewhere deep within, your words hammer away at them.

Beloved mothers and fathers, it is natural for your children to eat. Eating is one of the pleasures on Earth. Let mealtime be a pleasure for your child. It’s all right if he doesn’t eat this time. He will eat another.

Start expecting your child to eat, and leave him alone. Expect your child to be in good health, and let him be. No need to hover over him. Enjoy your children. Let them enjoy you. Think of enjoying them more than you think of raising them. No need to be a quartermaster. Merriment is worth far more than correction.

Your children, regardless of appearance, take you seriously, every word you say.

The best thing you can do for your children is to enjoy them. As you enjoy them, they become more and more enjoyable. Remember they are children. They may get under your feet. They may be in your hair, yet they look up to you and rely on you for everything.

Childhood is meant to be happy.

Giving happiness is not spoiling your children. Spoiling them is when you give them something as a means of appeasement so you don’t have to bother with them. Things are not a substitute for your love.

Of course, you are entitled to a break. You have your needs too. Respect your child, and he will respect you. Listen to your child, and he will listen to you. Respect doesn’t mean catering to your child.

To your child, you are a God. He expects you to know everything and be everything. He doesn’t yet understand that you are a mortal with anxieties of your own. Yes, to your young child, you are a Supreme Being. You are only human, yes, but you are also your child’s shining light.

Have faith in your child. Be faithful to love over impatience.

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As always it is beautiful.My

As always it is beautiful.My heart is a glow with warmt of Love.You truly are GLORIA.
Love and Joy to the world.
Marija

Dear dear God, this is the

Dear dear God, this is the Guideline I had needed as a young mother. Every word is - what I the last few years do realize - the truth. My two boys are now almost 10 and 20 years old. And to my elder son I have to apologize deeply, again and again, hoping, I can heal him from the failures I did especially while eating. And he is such a wonderful growing man all by himself. My younger son is like an angel who gives me advice. I do respect them and love them both deeply. And I love to be a loving mother now as far as I am aware of it.
If you are a young mother, please take these words of God very seriously. Frame them. Read them again and again. This is all you need to know, to be the mother that your children need to have.
LOVE TO ALL MOTHERS!

Dear Uta , don't be to hard

Dear Uta ,
don't be to hard on yourself. There are no real schools how to raise children. I admire (my) parents that have to discover resources in themselves to raise children the best they can without books or training schools. God already admires you for what you've done.

You have so friendly words

You have so friendly words for me, thank you dear Normand. I feel uplifted. Thank you!

Children

Dear Uta, I have made mistakes with my 5 children, Now they are all adults and there are 7 grandchildren, Now in modern times not as yet, greatgrandchildren, actualy none have married yet, so no great grand children is fine. God has been very good to us, as there is a strong love feeling in our family. We meeting all together at one of our daughters, at Xmas, as she has the biggest house, to accomodate most of us. My eldest daughter just came back to Australia, after 20 odd years in the U.K. Although she misses the friends she made over there, she is so pleased to be among her family, who are also good friends. You should see the comments on face book amongst them all. So please do not worry, if love is there !!!, all will be fine in the end. Normande has the right answer as well, so never worryand lt us all be friends Love to all Jack

How fine that your eldest

How fine that your eldest daughter has come back. Yes, what love comes off the forum pages from you, Jack. I don't really know Will Rogers, but I bet he had the same kind of wisdom that you do. Of course, it's going to be hard to miss seeing you when Heaven Admin and I are in Australia. Loving you, Gloria

Such a big family you have!

Such a big family you have! Much reason to love and to be prowed of. I'm looking forward with high hopes, thanks dear Jack.

You have a big family! Wow,

You have a big family! Wow, this is wonderful. So you very probably have many reasons to love and to be proud. I look forward with high hopes now. Thank you dear Jack!!

Oh, yes, I know the feeling,

Oh, yes, I know the feeling, Uta, of having been less than perfect, yet, all the same, how fortunate we have been. How do we know. Maybe perfect wouldn't really have been perfect. We do know that our children blessed us, taught us, and raised us!

Yes, I know that my sons

Yes, I know that my sons bless me, teach me and raise me!! I am very happy to get these comments from you all!
Much love to you!!

Dear Uta, I just hope you

Dear Uta,

I just hope you don't feel guilty. Never forget that God doesn't want you to feel guilty. God understands you!

David

Beloved David, indeed, God

Beloved David, indeed, God loves us and understands us.

It seems to me that we all sit where Uta is. I sure do. It's like I majored in guilt all my life, and I excelled in it.

It seems to me that guilt is devastating whatever brings it up, whether it is something huge or little.

We can know all the answers, and still sense of guilt weighs heavily. Maybe some day we will get to the place where we can take responsibility without holding on to the heaviness of guilt.

Some of us have a tendency to assign blame to everyone else while some of us put the blame squarely on ourselves. If we could remove the need for blame altogether, how happy we would be.

I also did my major and

I also did my major and graduated in "guilt". Guilt is a trick used by our split mind (ego) to maintain God at a distance. As you say Gloria, the only way to remove guilt or the need for blame altogether, is to take responsibility which is to be what we are meant to be. In that case, guilt might be used as a propeller to get out of it (guilt).

Thanks, Gloria.I fully

Thanks, Gloria.

I fully agree. We would be very happy if we could let go of guilt and blame completely. This is obviously what we should do, what God wants us to do. For me, at least, the trick is "how" to do this. If I could just say, "God, help me to let go of my guilt completely and for all time," I would do it.

You know what, maybe it is that easy. Maybe I just needed to ask.

Maybe it doesn't have to be difficult. Maybe the thing is that I falsely BELIEVED it had to be difficult, but it really doesn't.

Anyway, it helps me to share this because I'm learning it as I "teach" it.

Peace.

David

Bless you, David. We are all

Bless you, David. We are all learners.

guilt is not love

Gloria, I'd like to tell what I experienced today.

I asked, "how" can I let go of guilt, and the answer came to me.

It is my understanding from God that every choice we make reflects our highest idea of love. In other words, we tend to do iwhat we think we SHOULD think, feel, say, and do.
I felt God was telling me that I couldn't let go of my guilt and shame because I believed that "guilt is noble" and "shame is virtuous."

In other words, I had thought that GUILT IS LOVE!

Well, the answer to this, the way to let go of guilt, the "how," is to know that guilt is NOT love.

I saw this today. Guilt is not love!

Bless you too, Gloria.

David

Very perceptive, dear David.

Very perceptive, dear David. Yes, guilt is not honorable. We're not wonderful to hold on to guilt.

With love and blessings, Gloria

Thank you

Dear David, thank you for your empathetic words. I don't think that I feel guilty nowadays. It is just that I deeply regret the failures I did. And in the end I started to realize how wonderful and loveable children are, not only my two. It is like a present I received from God, it is a miracle i guess. My love to children is still growing. Children are a treasure. Send from our God. They truly are a miracle in our world. And this urges me, to tell it everybody, especially mothers.
God bless you! Uta