From Where Does Judgment Come?

God said:

When you feel negativity in your heart in the presence of someone or in the presence of a thought of someone, know that negativity you feel comes from your mind. Your mind has judged and drawn a conclusion.

When you feel negativity toward someone, your mind has established that the person is not the way you think he should be. You have judged him wanting, and you close your heart down.

When you feel positivity toward someone, your mind sees that person as being what you think he ought to be. Therefore, your mind thinks highly of him and signals you to like him.

When your heart takes signals from your mind, pro, your heart warms up to the person or, con, your heart distances itself.

What it comes down to is that you feel good about yourself when you think of someone you like. And when you think of someone you don’t like so much, you don’t feel quite so good about yourself. You blame the other person. In order to feel better, you look down on the person who doesn’t come up to snuff, and, therefore, for a little while, you raise yourself in your own estimation. You tip the scale in your favor. You like yourself a bit more. You feel better about yourself, and life seems better.

This is what is meant by conditional love. It depends upon something. It depends upon how another appears to you. According to the state he appears to be in, you apply a status to him, and you put a stamp on him: “Excellent. So-so. Doesn’t pass. Not to my standards.” And so you sink your heart or you lift your heart. You, who know better than to judge, judge right and left. Judgment does not feel good, beloveds, not to you, the judger, nor to the judged.

How you feel about yourself pretty much determines your stance toward another. One who judges lacks good judgment.

Unconditional love is a term bandied about, as if you can instruct yourself to love without making requirements. Awareness of love isn’t an Act of Will. Yet judgment is.

The real question is how to get away from judgment. The real question is how to get away from ego. Without ego, what would be the necessity for judging anyone up or down?

And, so, the real question to ask yourself is: How can I love myself at all times? How can I be less influenced by the conditioning of my own mind?

When the Great Spiritual Ones met someone, they met the person in freedom from past impressions. They did not condemn nor did they extol. The Great Ones did not appraise. They met with their heart of understanding intact. Their minds did not say: “This person is great. That last one was not.”

Their minds went more along the line of: “How can I best serve God through this person?” Of course, they did not really think this for this was natural to them. They didn’t have to think anything.

The Great Ones served God on all occasions. The question never arose in their minds: “What is this person worth?”

No, their question, if We can call it a question, was: “How do I bless this person in God’s Name?”

Look, they simply blessed. This is what they did. And what they did, so can you. With a full heart of love toward yourself, you will bless all who come before you. Know that all who have come before you, have come to receive your blessing. Give it.

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The only thing we project in

The only thing we project in judging the other, no matter if it is a favorable or defavorable judgment, is a picture of ego. We see in the other a picture of our ego we like or we don't like. Anyway, coming from ego, it is a weak, vulnerable picture of us. Judging people is telling them that what they are, we don't want to be. Is it not easier to let them be what they are and bless them?

You say it in a nutshell,

You say it in a nutshell, beloved Normand. Your last sentence says it all:

"Is it not easier to let them be what they are and bless them?"

There have been occasions when that happened, where I wound up feeling fond of someone I previously couldn't stand. But, you know, I didn't do it. It happened. Some barrier got broken within me. I truly had the experience of feeling differently. "So what that this person is whatever I had thought. I can enjoy him anyway." And I did. Yet the freeing happened first on its own.

I would say that I experienced acceptance. It might even be called forgiveness that I experienced. What each of those people had was exceptional love in their hearts.

I also recall experiences where I thought someone was super, and then it went downhill.

I'm sorry, but I disagree.

I'm sorry, but I disagree. My life was put at risk.

Beloved Faye, you don't have

Beloved Faye, you don't have to agree, dear one.

There are circumstances where probably none of us could agree.

I heard of two lovely true stories, Faye. This one took place not so long ago in New York City. A woman had her very expensive camera and was taking snapshots when two ominous men came up to rob her of her camera. She smiled and said: "You can't take my camera!"

Bullyingly, they said: "And why not?"

She said, "I want to take pictures of you!" And so she disarmed the two men.

They warmed to her, posed for her, and let her take their pictures, and then they left her in peace with her camera!

This lady's husband was a New York policeman. When she showed him the photos, he knew who these two men were. They were hard-core criminals and murderers who had, as I remember, gotten off on technicalities. How fortunate the woman was, and yet, she was also part of her good fortune.

Somehow, spontaneously, the lady had diffused their criminality and warmed their hearts.

I read once about a saint. It was about midnight, and man entered his room. The saint knew that the man was there to kill him. The saint told the man to come in, was hospitable to him, and told the man that he, the saint, knew why he was here. Without animosity, the saint told the killer to go ahead. And the saint was murdered.

Well, most of us aren't saints and we're not so evolved that we could do that. But, again, we don't know what we would do.

In another post that arrived at the same time as this one, you mentioned a situation where you were unkindly treated. You know, one of the guidelines here is to refrain from going into situations that pull us down. We have all been through unkind situations, and yet it's better for our feelings to not describe them here.

I relate to you very much, Faye. When I have a situation that I'm not happy with, I like to vent to my daughter. And every time she says to me: "Why are you putting your attention on that when you have so many good things to put your attention on?"

And, of course, God says that too.

It would be wonderful if you would like to respond to a Heavenletter by quoting a sentence that you do agree with and that uplifts you. You will inspire us all, dear Faye.

With love and blessings,

Gloria

Gloria said just the rightt thing.

Thanks Sweet One.

George

Dear Faye,Did you ever

Dear Faye,
Did you ever heard, that we choose what we experience in life? And that it is also our choice, how we react to it. I for myself had hard times in life especially with my children and my daily health and I almost died, but they also turned out to be a blessing to me finaly. I read about "being responsible" here on Heavenletters. This Heavenletters are really a blessing and helpful to us.
Love! Uta

What would be the meaning of

What would be the meaning of blessing if we had to bless only what is already blessed according to our eyes?

Another nut shell, Normand.

Another nut shell, Normand. You say it in a nutshell. What indeed would be the meaning.

Really

The fact is that we will be "really" blessing only when our eyes will see all as already blessed. Awareness of blessedness makes us blessing people...really.

This is the hen and the egg

This is the hen and the egg paradox, isn't dear Emilia? God says so often that even if you think you are empty of love, give it in order to discover you already have it. It is a choice you have to make.

The real question

But only: “With a full heart of love toward yourself, you will bless all who come before you.”
So it seems that the discover of Love within Yourself comes first. The rest is exercise, often just lip exercise, not the real thing, it can help us to feel good guys, oh so good.

... how it works ....

Dear Faye,

one Heavenletter later we can read ...

That’s how it works. How you see yourself is how you see others.

And later, there .... Never mind now, just become the Son of God, for so are you designated. Look up and begin to see yourself in the Light of My Eyes. So be it.

And, dear Faye, , please see it as an AND in capital letters .... look, how much you had to say to me, to Uta, to Normand, to Emilia and to Gloria, and to God, as to how they - we are six - are living their lives.

Be blessed, yes, be even blessed in your injuries and inmidst of your complaints and woes,

Theophil

What if the person is being

What if the person is being hurtful to you? If it is your husband who degrades you? and your child? Am i supossed to bless him and stay? When are we alowed to use judgment?

Dear Emily, thank you for

Dear Emily, thank you for commenting! As I am also a questioner like you, I first would like to ask you, to look what God says in Heavenletters. There is a "search"-field above. As I discovered so far, I would like to tell you this:
You are equal, you are a most loved beautiful being, as your husband is. So you could ask yourself, what is going on in my life, that gives my husband the opportunity degrading me and his children. Do you feel less worth? As far as I concern loving myself means to shelter myself and of course we have the responsibility to protect our children. If there would be a dangerous thunderstorm, you would try to protect yourself won't you. And who would bless the thunderstorm? Maybe the Great Ones..
Dearest Emily, I think to bless and love yourself is always the right way.

Dear Emily, there are many

Dear Emily, there are many aspects in your two lines comment. First, there are your hurt feelings, of course. Then there is the actual context of your situation. I cannot suggest you to bless your husband if you don't think it makes sense. But what about your question: "Am I supposed to stay?" If you have the possibility of leaving, will you? If you decide to stay, what would make you stay? Then it would be a free decision coming from you.

Another aspect of your post is about judgment: "When are we allowed to use judgment?" I guess nobody can refrain you from judging. It's an act of free will. But will judgment bring you peace? As Uta suggests you, do a search with the keyword "judgment" in the Heavenletter. You will see that God insists on the fact that you cannot get any advantage of judging. It won't release your anger and it won't resolve the situation. And judgment has a mirroring effect. It will send you back the image you project on the other which in the end is the mirror of yourself. Mirrors are always confusing. They are not the best advisors.

Look, they simply blessed.

Look, they simply blessed. This is what they did. And what they did, so can you.

This Heavenletter is so profound to us human beings I believe - beautiful, it is so simple, love yourself and you can bless the other! This reminds me of this beautiful time I spent with feeling so close to God. for a year I needed to praise him in the church, so deeply touched was I without that I would have done anything for it. It was a gift. a great blessing from heaven. In the first few weeks, I had to bite me on the tongue because I wanted to shout out to acquaintances on the street "God bless you". So I stretched my hand only upward and waved...Now I understand it, my heart was almost bursting so full of love was I...

I did like tose words "One

I did like tose words "One who judges lacks good judgment. "
I beleive that they can applay to anybody no exeption.

" “How do I bless this person in God’s Name?”

It isn't so hard, just try this: "Look, they simply blessed. This is what they did. And what they did, so can you. With a full heart of love toward yourself, you will bless all who come before you. Know that all who have come before you, have come to receive your blessing. Give it." It's sort of fun.

George

How blessed we are to have

How blessed we are to have all these comments here from hearts all over the world, and how blessed we are to get to know each other and experience the love and wisdom we all have. And, Faye, we wish you would not have any discomfort ever, and yet how even your discomfort has blessed us, for you brought out the best in all of us.

And thank you, too, Faye, for your acceptance that we keep the vibration high here.

I tell you, what great people are here to help us rise above trouble -- in addition to God's magnificent words. We really like human beings.

Love Blessings

Much Gratitude for this Insightful sharing! Each Soul is indeed a Blessing...to walk as God's gifted vessel of Love creates many opportunities for Creator Source Love Intention...by staying In Love with Self and others, One devotes less time interest to lower energy sensations...each day my Soul Being Human rises in expectation of another Angel Assignment Adventure! What an Honor Serving Love Magnification...sending Immense Waves of Love Love Love & Light your way Daily!...Huggles of Lovins...~ shamanista eva ~ in Love at One

What a nice surprise.

What a nice surprise. Thank you beloved Eva Maria. I hope reading again from you and God bless you too!