Begin Happiness

God said:

It has been said that most of what annoys you comes from ego. Another way of saying this is to say that irritation and its big brother, anger, come from a need you have to control.

By no means do I take away from you how it seems that your negative feelings are based on something outside you. It well may be. Certainly, you don’t ask for any semblance of negativity. It certainly seems to come uninvited. So, yes, I will give you that you would much rather have equanimity even in a world of irritating people and situations. I know you are a good guy. I know without doubt that you are on the side of good. Of course, I know, and you know, and everyone who knows you knows.

And yet, every now and then, something upsets you.

Now, this issue of wanting to control, or needing control, where does that come from? Where would it come from? Where would it come from through you when, in life, you very well have had to take your fingers, one by one, off control? That’s the point.

Because control seems to have been wrested from you, about the only control you feel you have is to be annoyed. Lots of things don’t go on in life as you desire.

So now you consider your ability to control as non-existent. You are obliged to follow this rule or that rule, this law or that law. You have to earn a living, and you may have a partner who rules you. No wonder you long for control of something, even when it is a question of something not important at all.

If you felt that you have more say in your life, you wouldn’t yearn to have control so much. You really want self-direction and the freedom it offers.

Begin self-directedness with your thoughts, beloved. This is a good place to begin. Someone can take away your freedom of action, even your freedom of speech, yet you are King over your thoughts.

Whatsoever words or expressions of manners or actions disturb you, your thoughts are yours and no one can rule your thoughts and, thus, your emotions. Not only are your thoughts where you can begin, this is the only place where you can begin.

You protest that others, the world etc., rule the roost, while you let others' manner of speech and their ways of thinking make you lose your inner cool, even when you don't let it show. Oh, yes, others are ruling over you all right. You line yourself right up to dance to their tune all in the name of control.

Whether We call it ego or control, it is short-sighted of you.

You say that something or another bothers you, and you continue to let it bother you, as if you had no choice but to keep its bother. What would happen if you let go of your irritation? What would happen if you got beyond it?

Why would you rage about nose-rings or tattoos or whatever it is that sets you on a tirade?

I begin to think that you like to get steamed up about something, even when it has nothing to do with you! Nobody is making you do anything. The girl with purple hair or whatever it may be that gets your back up, the last I knew no one was making you dye your hair purple or shave it

Let go of trying to control other people. Let go of forced control. You don’t like it. Oh, My, judgment is one fierce control. It is the mother of all controls. Judgment sure is controlling you.

You can stop judging. You really can do it. Sense of annoyance can leave you. You will be fine without it. Free yourself. Let go of the ego and control and judgment right now. Begin happiness.

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God hears us

On this very day, I struggled with letting go. I let things get to me; that he stares at other women. I let it annoy me to no end and we end up in an unhappy situation. I know its my ego, I prayed healing and yet I let it annoy me. I tell mysef I have to let him go, to let him go and let God. Yet it seems so hard. And then I read this and it feels like He is really talking to me, He actually saw and heard and felt what I felt. So I believe, I have to believe in Him, who else can I believe in. He promised us that what we ask for, He will answer and give and all we have to do is to trust and believe in Him and yet so often we take over control, we think we know best, our ego tells us something else. Thank you, God, for this letter. Thank You for letting me know that You are here. Thank You for everything.

How honest is your response.

How honest and real your response is, Anne.

I wonder often when I will really and truly let go. If only I were not so attached. How well we know that our happiness is not dependent on someone else but only on ourselves, and so we yearn to let someone be what he is and not all we wanted him to be. Well, Anne, we have to be glad for the progress we have made.

I loved your statement in reference to God: Who else can I believe in?

God does not give us our every wish, and, sometimes, later, we are so glad He didn't. According to my understanding of Heavenletters, God's love for us and ours for Him isn't dependent on His granting us our desires, no matter how good we are and how deeply we desire.

Are you new to Heavenletters™?

Read the guidelines, dear one. And come back!

Gloria, your response is wonderful!

This should help her read LIFE AS you see and read it.


Point out

My wife, knowing me, used to point out pretty girls to me. It is not a offence for a man to enjoy looking at women,as long as he keeps his promiss to his Wife. My wife felt my love for her. so I am aloud to look and enjoy. You might own a nice picture in your house. Are you not aloud to look at other pictures that catch your eye? Be like Mieke, my beloved for 56 years, she was sure of herself. Now after our life is waning we are happier then ever Love to all Jack

Jack, I love you! Women

Jack, I love you! Women really don't have to worry. It is as it is. I cannot change the other. Men and women, each is responsible for himself. Better to be sure of myself.

Whether We call it ego or control, it is short-sighted of you."

How you feel is deeply personal but has little to do with what the "outside" of life is all about. Look up as you grow, read Heaven Letters and watch yourself grow.