Abby to Heavenletters:

Dear Gloria, let me just say once again how much I appreciate Heaven letters! I was so healed by the response to my question. Already I feel better.

I always look forward to reading Heaven letters!

Abby to God:

Dear God, as I had expected, your response was exactly what I needed in every way! Thank You!

I would like to ask You about a friend of mine. He has been a very good friend to me in the past, but for some time now he has been drifting away. A few times I have asked him if this is because of something I have done, but he always says he doesn't know what I mean; that he didn't realize he was drifting away. I think that he says this to avoid having to hurt me, not realizing that his refusal to answer hurts me anyway.

I think I must let him go, though I still care about him. Please tell me how I can do this.

Note from Gloria: I asked Abby to go into more detail in her question so we could get a fuller picture and also so she could define for herself what's going on.

Abby to Gloria:

Dear Gloria, yes, I did the exercise as soon as I got back to my room. It was wonderful! It made me feel so complete and happy, and it really did help me clarify who I think I am and what my connection to the world is.

I would be happy to clarify the new question. He is not a boyfriend and never was, although many people have often asked both of us if we were an item at one time, because we used to be so close. I think we both pondered the idea of a relationship of that sort, but he seemed uncomfortable discussing it, so I never said what I thought or felt about that.

I think he is drifting because, though he used to talk to me or e-mail me often, he no longer does at all. We used to see each other and hang out together quite regularly, and even after I left for college he would call me almost every week, and we would catch up on things. I called him a few times while I was home for Christmas. but he always said he was sorry he couldn't see me because he was too busy. I have not heard from him once since I've come back to NY.

No, I'm not 18, I'm 19. School is more interesting every day! The truth is, there really is no one thing I want to spend my entire life doing. I love all of it!

I am eternally grateful for Heaven letters!

Much love.

God to Abby:

My dearest Abby, I feel your sincerity. I feel your willingness. First I would like to say more concerning what we talked about yesterday.

I want you to know that you do not have to be polite with Me, My child! Feel free to go deep with Me. Shred your truth apart if you have to.

I have the sense that your brother played out the role of naughty boy in your family and you the role of good girl.

Now, you are a good girl. You truly are. You are an amazing precious true delight on earth, yet I sense that you think good, nice, polite are your role to play, even if that is what you really are on this planet. What I am trying to say is, that in earth terms, no one has to appear all good anymore than one has to appear all bad. Some of My children think they have to be one way or another.

What I want to do now is give you permission to be imperfect. How do you like that? A perfect God tells His perfect child to be imperfect! But you know what I mean, Abby. There is no way that you have to be. You do not have to be supreme. You can just be.

And that starts with you and Me. We are the whole story anyway, Abby. It is all about you and about Me. We are the story. We are the unfolding of it. And you are entitled to your freedom from restraint. I do not impose them on you. And no one else does. Honestly, the world does not.

Your authenticity, and your sense of authenticity, are rising high. Oh, you are going to feel something wonderful. You are going to breathe better, because there is nothing like breathing in freedom. A whiff of free air is magic for you, Abby.

The most important thing I have to tell you this morning is that you are free, to be who you are, and to discover who you are, from all sides, Abby. You are on safari in unmarked territory, and you seek to observe whatever you see. Whatever you see, you record it in your log with delight at discovery. One sight isn't better than another. It just is. And each is valuable. And each is a part of the whole.

Do not strive for some kind of perfection. Strive for joy. Strive for ease. Of course, you cannot strive for those, so allow them. Have them on your calendar. Whatever trip you are taking, the destination is joy. That is where you are going. Joy is why you are here, to experience joy for Me. Let it be your joy, Abby.

I see you right now as a dancer with a long sash around her waist, and an unknown partner — it could be I — yes, it certainly is I — holds the other end as you twirl until the sash is removed and you dance in total freedom. No sash holds you back now, Abby. Pure Abby is left dancing. All Abby.

Now to your question about this young man in your life, or who is sort of in your life.

No matter what the particulars, if you feel someone is adrift from you, he is adrift from you. Whatever he may say, you have to trust your feelings. Everyone does not speak his truth. Everyone does not know what his truth is. Perhaps he denies the truth and doesn't let himself see it.

You sense a drifting. You can't deny it either because that would be lying to yourself and preferring to accept another's words before your own experience. Some people, and perhaps this boy, think it is kinder to dissemble than say the truth. You, Abby, have to look to action or inaction more than words. No one is too busy to see you, dear one.

No matter. No one is responsible. Feelings change. Most friends don't stay close forever.

How do you let go? It is all an image in your mind, Abby. Let go of the image that anything has to be, or that it matters. No one is tied to another. No one has to be let loose. No one has to let go or be let go of, because there is no possession in the first place. No one belongs to another. No one owes another.

People are together to whatever degree they are together. If it is not the same as it was, it just isn't. It's something else now. You can acknowledge that, or not acknowledge that, but that does not change what has changed. If you don't acknowledge, then you may just be retaining an old image.

People come and go in each other's lives.

Life is about coming and going.

Nothing stays the same in earth life.

If people stay together, it is not the same staying together that it once was or may yet be.

What does letting go of this young man mean to you? Do you think you are something more with his attention or something less without it? What in truth is different?

Be grateful for the friendship that was.

Don't be hurt because he is not what you would like right now.

It is also possible that your internal letting go of him might make him more energetic to see you. If that happens, you be the decider, Abby.

Right now, free both of yourselves. Bless him to his good life, and bless yourself to yours. Neither of you really needs the other. That is fantasy. No one needs anyone else. They think so. They like to think so, but it is not so.

I am the only Constant, Abby. You already have Me, so you can't need what you already have. And I am all you need.

Abby, you are so aware at nineteen. How Heavenreaders wish they knew what you know when they were nineteen, when they bought everything that came their way and skirted truth and skated on the surface of life. I want to say that age doesn't matter. It is all one journey anyway. All can move very fast now.