The Beauty of Nonattachment
Note for newer Heavenreaders: In reference to the question below, Molly was Diane's beautiful bright physically challenged three-year old daughter who passed away around Thanksgiving last year. We all shared Molly through Diane, and miss her. — Gloria
Diane to God:
Dear God, I have been soaking up Your responses to Gloria about Ginger, and filling in Molly's name for Ginger's, and learning more. "If I believed that loving Molly meant being happy, even with her body gone, I could stop hurting and try out happiness".
I was remembering my love for Molly, and I was struck by the knowing that the greatest love I felt for her was in the last two months of her physical life when I had given the responsibility for her well-being to You. Then I was able to relax enough to really enjoy her.
Did my letting go have something to do with her transition time?
Does Molly have anything she wants me to know as I go forward?
God to Diane:
Your letting go of Molly, your giving the responsibility over to Me, made it possible for you to enjoy her more. You gave to God what is God's. You gave My child to Me in faith. You acknowledged that what was Mine was Mine.
Your heart said: "Oh, Molly is Your child, dear God. You entrusted her to me on earth, but I know that all the while she is Yours and never out of Your sight. We share her love, God, you and I. Molly, You, and I are like a trinity. We are definitely a triangle of love. We share the One Love. Three-pointed One Love."
The recognition and admission of truth freed you, and it freed Molly. Your acknowledgement of truth had nothing to do with the time of Molly's leaving earth and coming whole-heartedly to Me.
Your recognition and admission of truth was a gift you gave to yourself. Molly's transition would have been rougher for you without that blessed interval you gave to yourself, Diane. When you surrendered Molly to Me, you surrendered yourself.
Is memory attachment? Must be. For a while, Humans are attached to their memories. Anything to make a connection. And connection you want.
Memories fade, and that brings its own sadness to My children. But what does not fade is love. Love flourishes. Love abounds. Love strengthens all. And love itself becomes strengthened. The most tremendous bond of all is unbounded.
Those points on the triangle — the triangle is really a circle, and there are no points. You thought there were, and you loved seeing those points of love. My children want love to stand still, but love moves. By its very nature, it flows. And now your love and Molly's love flow in an ever-bigger circle.
As Molly blew kisses to you, you forward your love. A kiss is given, and love is more. Nothing is taken away by the giving of love. All is multiplied by the giving of love.
What would Molly want to tell you? She would say, "Thank you." She would say, "I love you forever." She would say, "I am happy. I am happier than you can imagine. I visit you, and I give you a flower of my love every day. We are not apart, Mommy. Our hearts are one in God's. I know you miss me. I cannot miss you because you are never away from me. We are closer than our thoughts. We are closer than our memories. I kiss your cheek right now. I am with God. I play with angels. I go to school. I love you. I am happy."
When you feel a breeze on your cheek or the sun on your face, be reminded of Molly.
You may want to write to Molly, Diane, and hear her love directly yourself. You know her address.
Blessed are you, Diane. Blessed are you among women.
Gloria:
Dear God, I think we have all experienced the wrench of dis-attaching ourselves. We seem to know how to attach very well. What would it be like to not attach in the first place? And how do we not attach in the first place?
God:
Attachment comes from fear, from unknowingness.
The sun shines. What attaches to the sun? What does the sun attach to. The sun just does its shining.
When you shine, you do not attach. You tie nothing to you. Why would you?
Gloria:
I cannot imagine a mother who does not attach to her child.
God:
You are mixing up attachment with love again.
Love is not attachment. Love is enabling and freeing.
Attachment pins down.
Attachment says, "Loss is possible."
How to learn to love without attachment?
Know love is possible.
Know love exists for its own sake.
Love for Me.
Love in My name.
Love is not captured.
Love is sovereign.
But love rules by not ruling.
There is nothing to take.
Nothing can be taken in love.
Only given.
The name of love and love are not the same.
Do not love in the name of love.
Unattachment does not come from design or determination.
It comes from knowing truth.
Love in love. Do in love.
Love from where you are.
Stand in a high place.
Let your love shine.
Love does not grab.
Love does not clutch.
Love does not hold.
There is nothing to do.
Love does its own thing.
Love is or isn't.
It can't be made.
It already is.
Just let it be.
Let yourself be the love you are.
Free yourself to be what you are.
Let your light so shine before men.
There is nothing more you have to do.
There is nothing more you can do but be the light you are.
Just don't dim it. Don't hide it. Don't steal others' light.
You have enough of your own.
You don't need someone else's.
The sun shines and reflects off the moon.
The moon shines back.
That is love.
There is no commandment there.
Love has to be free, or it is not love.
But in a way it is not free or unfree. It is.
You are big love, if you only knew.
You and I are big love.
Love attracts itself.
You don't need love.
You are it.
So, be it.
So be it.