Giving without Attachment

Sutra Number: 
552

Nancy L. to God:

Dear God, thank you for Your answer to Hans about his back pain. I have had a pain in my left heel now for at least a month. Sometimes it seems to be getting better, and other times it is very tender. I tried bringing in Your light into my body and down to my heel when I breathe in. It may be helping. What is causing this pain? Does it have something to do with fear of going forward?

God to Nancy L.:

Well, My dear Nancy, one side of you rushes forward, and the other side drags its foot. You dig in hard where you are with one foot, and your heel hurts. Don't dig into life so hard. Be lighter in life. Lift up both feet and fly with Me, dear Nancy. Put your feet up once a while. Be more lackadaisical about life. Amble; don't dash. Don't hustle. Be not divided. Be in truth. What is your truth? Do not deny what you feel, and your heel will feel better. And, yes, drink in My light. Let My light kiss your foot and remove the blocks holed up there. But the blocks came from your denial of your heart.

Diane to God:

Dear God, I realized this morning that the biggest sting I feel is when I give to someone something that I think is important or valuable, and it is not received or not received in the way I expect. How do You do it, God?

This is the position You are often in with us. You continually give us Your love and blessings, and we don't receive or we don't receive in the way You want us to. Tell me Your secret.

God to Diane:

My ego is not involved. I have no ego. I know My truth. I know all is well. I know My children furl and unfurl. I also know that My children do have everything I give before they may know it. I see the so-called beginning and the course and the end all at once. My children get hung up in a part while I swing free with Wholeness.

Whereas I know that My children will accept everything of Me, although, in their terms, they may not yet, I give them also the freedom to jump and shout and perform their little dances and not accept Me or My truth or My guidance or My wisdom or My love. It is not that I don't care; it's that I care they come to Me as and when they decide. I let them swim as far as they wish. Let them row a boat. Let them go in a different direction. I care, but I am not attached to the caring.

It is like you with a garden, dear Diane. You water it, but you do not say to the flowers: "Did you receive the water I gave you today? Hey, I gave you water. Say something. Perk up the way I want. Appreciate what I have given you."

Your joy is in the watering.

Your joy is in the giving.

In practical terms, giving is not controlling. Giving is giving. That is the end of it. If you give with expectation, you have attached something to the giving.

In practical terms, wait until someone asks you. Don't give so much. Give less. They don't have to want or accept what you give. Not even your love.

My children like to find their own way, even if your way is better. Even if you are right. Even if they are wrong, they have the freedom to accept or not accept. They are right in that. And you are incorrect in expectation.

You prepare a meal with a full heart for your family. After all your preparation, no one is hungry. Or no one wants meat. Or vegetables. Or milk. Or whatever. Politely they pick at your food. Naturally, this doesn't make you happy. But would you force-feed them? And how do you know, really know, that carrots are good for them?

If you, or Gloria, were in pure joy as I am in pure joy, as I am of pure joy, what would you care what someone else likes or doesn't like, accepts or doesn't accept? What would it have to do with you?

If you, or Gloria, knew your worth as I know My worth, what would it matter to you who else knows it or doesn't know it?

Let life be.

No one in the world has to know who you are and what you give except Me.

No matter how much you give, the world will not give you all the appreciation you want and deserve. It will not.

Look in the right place for appreciation. You know where I am.

Try a week without giving more than you can give without investment. Give only up to what requires no return. Give to suit yourself, not others. If you have an expectation, dear one, it is not giving. Then you are asking someone to owe. You are presenting a bill, or assuming a payment. That is control. Giving that is control is not giving. Giving that requires gratification is not giving. Don't give more than you can give.

Try a week of giving to yourself. Don't ask it of others.

Gloria to God:

Even when I hold a door open for a stranger, and they don't say thank you, my feelings are hurt. They didn't ask me to hold the door open for them, it's true, and yet I am compelled to hold it open and I resent what seems to me to be impolite.

God:

Gloria, here is the answer. You hold the door open for Me.