Dear Gloria,
in http://www.heavenletters.org/the-keys-to-the-kingdom.html
third parag. before last: "It is like you wake up and rub your eyes, and you yawn and say: “Where am I?” Or you are asking: “Who am I?” And so you get closer to the question, when all is said and done, you really want to ask and become closer to the answer you really want to know. In a way, a Why question is a staller. There really is more you want to know than: “Why?”
In the construction of this sentence: "And so you get closer to the question, when all is said and done, you really want to ask and become closer to the answer you really want to know.", do you mean: "And so, when all is said and done, you get closer to the question you really want to ask…"
And "A Why question is a staller". What's a staller? The word does not appear in the main dictionaries. Is it a name derived from the verb "to stall"? Is a staller a stopper or something that makes your car stall?
Thanks