Negativity. Negativity holds you back from fulfillment of your desires. You know that anger and resentment keep you in a place where it is hard for fulfillment to enter. When you carry a certain vibration, only what is of the same vibration can go there.
Sooner or later, your negativity goes away. It may even melt and return to good feeling. Nothing in the situation has changed but how you feel, and what a difference that makes.
You somehow get into a better frame of mind. You allow the opening up of new possibilities. If a water pipe is stopped up, the water can’t get through. This is how negativity works as well. It clogs your heart.
Is it clear what negativity is? It is hard-heartedness in whatever form it comes in. Anger is a common form of negativity. The release of anger lets you move forward. All negativity is a blockage. As your consciousness rises, negativity can be transformed. Negativity can be transformed because you stand higher and you see differently. Because you see more clearly, new understanding enters. This is not being good. This is not sentimentality. This is not effort. It is a natural event when you come to see through a different spectrum.
Your point of view widens, and it softens. Whatever offense you had seen and held onto, your rigidity about it melted.When you see more dispassionately, the whole configuration changes. You see from a larger view. You feel less disparaged, and you disparage the other much less. The disparagement just isn’t there any longer or so much there any longer.
Let Me repeat that this does not come from an effort of will. Try as you may, effort doesn’t do it. When you are in that negative frame of mind, you are in that negative frame of mind. You can’t make this undoing happen by a flick of the wrist. Suddenly, you are different. Your feelings are different because you see differently. It isn’t that you forcibly let go of a grudge. The grudge left you. Your eyes opened. With this opening, love makes itself more available.
This is why I don’t rate you highly on deciding to forgive others, for you then see yourself as if you are high and mighty and better and bigger than others. Beloveds, when you are raging against another, forgive yourself and get beyond it, not as a matter of form but as a genuine lifting of hard feelings that so frees your own heart.
Somehow with this lifting of your awareness, your hot-headedness leaves, and the Light of Day arises. Everyone’s anger and such is his own. You saw a certain way, and you were angry. When you see a different way, your anger lifts itself. A window of your mind opens, and you let some fresh air in. Forgiveness is not an act of will. It is progress. It is an undoing of hardness of your heart. Your change of heart blesses you and the other. There was a logjam, and you undo the logjam. It was your logjam. It always was up to you to undo it.
You came to see something differently. When you are angry, sometimes you make a cause célèbre of it. Oddly, the wrong becomes your pride and joy. Look how wronged you were – again. Look at what someone did to you. How could they?
How could you do this to yourself?
If someone injures your child, perhaps takes away his life, this is a crime beyond measure. You still have to let go of it, in truth, let go of it. You have to. How can you? How can you not take it personally? Everyone sees this as a huge loss. It may be a loss for more than you. Your child might have been a Great Being blessing the world.
Nevertheless, for your sake and for the sake of those around you, you have to come to terms with it. Bitterness does not hold you in good stead. Hatred does not become you.
I do not ask you to feign love. I ask you get past the negativity, get out of its power over you.
I ask you: What do you want your life to reveal?