Beloveds, now it is time for every single one of My children to let go of blaming others for the straits you find yourselves in. Others may not have been ideal, yet it is not for you to blame anyone for a situation you are in. Rid yourself of the idea that someone or anyone is out to get you. If you look over your shoulder all the time, you are relegating yourself to what you perceive and may perceive amiss.
We don’t argue that you are innocent and that you don’t deserve whatever it is. We don’t argue that you have to let go of being victim, for, if you are victim, what is there for you to do but to accuse those who victimized you, or you believe did, or really did? Regardless, where is the benefit for you? You may be absolutely right in your innocence, yet where does that get you?
Eliminate the word blame from your vocabulary. It just doesn’t get you anywhere. No matter how limited someone has been, you are the one lighting the fire that you attach to them. I assure you that those you hold responsible for whatever you hold them responsible for are not focused on you. You may have given your thoughts and your life over to thoughts of them and others that you see as you see them.
Whatever may occur, others think they are right, just as you think you’re right to accuse them of malfeasance. How foolish of you not to let go of the past. You have to let go. Don’t glue resentment to you. Why let everything untoward get under your skin and fester there? Why give over your life to your thoughts about others as if you have no life and responsibility of your own?
I am aware that sometimes you think of Me as a bad guy. It is hard for you to forgive Me. You want Me to you give an explanation of how I could have let something hurt you so much and so you feel fervently that I let you down as if I have gone out of My way to disappoint you. You count so much on Me to prevent life from hurting you.
You have to bounce back. You have to let go of enmity and resentment. No one can be responsible for your recovery from hard-heartedness. Hard heartedness is the same as a closed mind. You may feel that no one is going to change your mind and get away with it. You are firm about that.
Beware when you are certain you have everything figured out. If you are so certain about the parts others must play in your life, your mind is closed along with your heart. You are not the arranger of what other people must be and do.
By and large, you are mistaken. You are mistaken in your judgment. Even if, by some stretch of imagination, your judgement happens to be correct, you still have to let go of your judgments. Do you really want to spend your life sparring mentally with others – or with Me?
You do not run the show. You may have even given yourself over to your summations, and you hold strongly to the unfairness. Hold on, and you certainly will incur more unfairness.
Anyway, what is it that you must take so seriously? What are you reliving, and why do you want to? It seems like you keep tying the knot around your neck tighter and tighter. Every affirmation of how badly you’ve been misunderstood and treated by others continues the pony show. You can feel vindicated by how badly you are treated and how mistaken others are about you. What you may well be doing is jutting your chin out and asking for more as if your being mistreated satisfies something in you, makes you feel self-righteous and, so you hang a sign on you that establishes that you are born to be a victim.
You are not born to be a victim. If you are a victim, you are perpetuating yourself as a victim to yourself. Sometimes, dear one, it is you who don’t understand. I tell you frankly: Martyrdom is not your calling.