When you judge, you condemn. This is the long and the short of it. Judging is exclusive. In judging, you exclude someone or even a whole group from your good graces. To whatever degree, you condemn others to be excluded from your heart. You set them aside and take them out of your good-heartedness. Objecting to their actions, you would eradicate them. You object to their existence and choose to put them out of your sight, and, therefore, to your mind, they no longer exist.
This is what I mean when I say that the faults you see in others are a projection of your own thoughts. If you cannot see your projection here, let’s look at it another way.
However you see another, you put yourself right beside him. You model yourself after him.
You resent a murderer, for example, and consider yourself holy to do so. Then, on a more subtle level, you eradicate the murderer. You dismiss him. He is not worthy of you. He who took life away from another, now you emulate. You have found the murderer guilty and removed him from your mind. You have made a more hidden kind of retribution yet retribution nevertheless. You have sentenced him to death out of your sight. You put him in prison. You put him in a little cell out of view and make him stay there. You exclude him from life in the world as much as you can. You have put him away from your consciousness. You do not want to be reminded of him.
Perhaps in the murder the person committed, he was exacting retribution. And now you have acted according to your own sense of retribution.
It certainly seems that the faults you find in others strike a chord within you. Whatever is intolerable to you in someone else is intolerable within you, thus you like to get the offender out of your way and awareness. You don’t want to see him ever again, and you never want to hear about him again. You will not suffer him, and so you put boundaries around him so you will not have to look at him or his offense. You don’t want to be reminded of your own lacks.
There is a reason why I call each of you My child. I do not call each of you My adult. You are My children, and children grow, and you are growing. You are growing in understanding. There is much that children cannot possibly know. You accept this. If you saw everyone on Earth as a child, you might judge less and receive everyone into your heart.
You do not remove a child from your heart because he dropped a cup and it broke, or because he was angry, or because he told a lie. Why would a child admit he broke the cup, even as you caught him red-handed, when he thinks it will make you angry at him. He doesn’t want to be a victim.
A child is trying to skid by in life just like most others. He doesn’t want it to be true that he broke the cup, and he wishes to get off free and not be scolded. You are more understanding of children than you are of adults. You do not see a child as a criminal. You tend to embrace children more easily than you do adults. How quickly you condemn adults whether you know them face to face or not.
On the other hand, I know that inside each of My grown children, you are still a child. You don’t always know what to do and, when you know, you don’t always do it.
It is easier to take children as they are than it is to take adults as they are. You accept that children don’t know better than to do what they do. If they knew better, they wouldn’t do it. I see you as innocent children who are here to learn and grow. I do not condemn My children. I do not condemn at all. I know everyone is learning. Once you see from a different angle, you will have learned. Learning is inevitable. All are learners. Some learn more easily than others.
You do not condemn children for the lacks you see. They are children. You do not take their mistakes as perpetuated upon you in some way. You do not exclude them from your heart. You keep children dear in your heart. The worst a child can be is to be naughty.
As you continue to grow, you will naturally extend acceptance to your brothers and sisters. This does not mean that everything goes. This does not make you lenient or foolish. It simply allows you to see more kindly and be the love that happens to be the Truth of you in the first place anyway.