When you sacrifice your peace for the presumed benefit of another, perhaps you are also sacrificing someone else’s peace as well.
Sacrifice is not sacred.
You may wholeheartedly desire to love others so much that you would do anything for them, and yet you are not able to carry through on your desire. Some people can. They can do it lovingly, and you may find you are not able to. It is not wise to let situations go on that, let’s face it, are intolerable to you. You may have had good intentions, yet you are just not able to live up to your good intentions. When you do not have peace in your home, for example, who does then? When will you? How will you restore peace when your peace is broken? Resentment does not restore peace.
Of course, you want to be an all-loving person. You aspire. And then you perhaps take on more than you can chew. The basis of your choice may well be that you are avoiding your own issues. You stir the pot, and then you can’t see what’s in it. It is so easy to blame your discomfort on others around you and on situations you are in the midst of.
You had a choice, and you made a choice that disturbs your life. Begin with the acknowledgment that you are responsible. Your woes are not the responsibility of anyone else.
Some people fear discovering themselves and so bring situations to themselves that keep them upset with others. They foist situations upon themselves. They do not seem to be able to get on without difficulties to solve. They may think they are acting for the highest good, and yet they may be acting from a level of fomenting disturbance. Some people deal with problems by incurring problems. From a place of seeming open-heartedness, they may make sure there is turmoil in their lives.
I ask My children to be unselfish. I do not ask My children to sacrifice. I certainly do not ask My children to sacrifice their good will. I do not ask you to draw difficult situations into your life. I do not ask you to draw drama into your life.
You may be the most well-meaning person in the world, and yet you may repeatedly set up situations that are not wholesome. When there are patterns in your life, notice them. Notice what patterns repeat themselves. Understand that you are not an innocent bystander. You are not an innocent victim. In a sense, you are the perpetrator.
You may be so accustomed to discomfort that you advertise for it. You may well have convinced yourself of your good motives, and your good motives may well exist, and yet they are a front. If you attract situations that do not bring out the best in you, your motives are a front.
If you are finding certain difficulties over and over again, you, My dear child, are the culprit. You are bringing the difficulties to you. It is not someone else’s doing. It is your own doing.
Find another way.
If you repeatedly move to a city where you find the people difficult, then consider that it is you who is difficult. For an unknown reason, you may want to prove that other people are imperfect or too hard to please. You may be the one too hard to please.
You are living with yourself, beloved. Wherever you go, you are living with yourself. If you do not like living with yourself, then there is something in your perspective that needs to change, and you have to change it.