Today's letter spoke loud and clear to me....it sounds great - but I don't comprehend HOW you "empty your heart of past associations, past grief, past holdings"? You don't have to work through them, confront them, learn from them first :?: I can look out another window and see a brighter future, but the hurt of the last 21 years doesn't disappear. Am I hanging on to it - "like a comforting old bathrobe" :?: I want to move on, but feel damaged - like a car crumpled in an accident. Not totaled, but not "good as new" either. Suggestions?