Moods have got to go. Being reactive has to go. You know what I mean. Reaction. Blind-sided reaction. You are quick to ignite. Founded or unfounded, your reaction has to go. Perhaps you like to react. Sometimes it seems that your happiness comes from being offended. You find a certain happiness in feeling wronged, for now you have something to fight over. Maybe you like a good disagreement, is this true?
There are finer ways to live life than finding offenses to pounce onto. Find rewards to pounce onto instead. Yes, be quick to smile. Be quick to enjoy. Otherwise, don't burn. Don't get yourself fired up. Do not ignite into flame at all. Stay cool. Don't even have a slow burn.
What is the cost to you of breaking out in anger or any of its distant relatives? What is the reward? Perhaps you feel you have to stick up for yourself? You do not have to stick up for yourself. You exist. There is nothing to stick up for.
There may have been an old offense stirred up, and you latch an old event onto a current event or word. You may fall for it every time. Certain things tick you off. Serve yourself well, and get over those repetitive words or looks or deeds that tick you off. Be a leader rather than a reactor.
Even if it is true that someone doesn't honor you, how much does his or her honor amount to? If this same person gave you advice on the stock market, would you follow it? And, yet, if he should make a remark you don't like, deliberately or by chance, then you take him at his word and you become a puppet who dances to his tune. It must be you are looking for an argument or to revive a hurt.
It is not smart to flare up because of someone else's thoughtlessness or even deliberate offense. In any case, he has been thoughtless.
Odds are you are angry with yourself for falling into an old trap and trying to defend yourself. Don't. If someone is seemingly unkind, must you be? If someone wishes to oppose you, why should you oppose him? Come from real strength instead of pique. Remember Me. Remember My regard for you.
I know you would like to be out of the fray once and for all, for you know it doesn't get you anywhere. There are so many other things to think about rather than who and what and why someone doesn't value you enough and how you must not allow this. Value yourself enough. Don't have pique. The other person is not the star of your life.
Make your own life, and make it higher.
As it is in martial arts, you come out ahead as you do not offer resistance. You really do not have to fend off offense. No one makes you get hot under the collar.
When someone offends you, why add insult and injury to yourself on top of it? When you declare someone as against you, you assault yourself. This is an old pattern, and you no longer want any more of it. Do not hold enmity to you. Befriend yourself. Give yourself wise counsel. You can do it. I ask you to do it.
You do not have to answer to everything that is thrown at you. Give yourself a break. Do not allow an offhand remark or even deliberate remark to compound into a burning of your heart.
I love you and the person who offended you equally. Let Me apologize for the person who offended you. Will you accept My apology?