NOTE: For new Heavenreaders, in regard to the question below, Molly is Diane's beautiful three-year old daughter who died about four months ago. Ginger is my poodle who also died recently. — Gloria
Diane to Gloria and Lauren:
I just had a wonderful vision of Molly running to greet Ginger and being so happy to have a new playmate in Heaven.
Diane to God:
Dear God, I am spending very little time feeling sad and missing Molly. I am so grateful for Your words that are ever helpful. In talking to several friends last week, I felt the sadness and loss as if it had just happened. I did not like it, and, as I was on the brink of tears, my desire was to not go there, but I felt like I had no control.
I then found a prayer in Heaven which began: "Here God, take these feelings from me. I no longer need them. I allow my old life to go on its way and I open to the new." Since then, when I feel sadness about Molly, I go directly to this prayer. Sometimes I feel immediate relief and other times I feel like a tug of war is going on inside me.
My counselor voice says, "Now, Diane, you know how important it is to feel your feelings". And my God voice says, "Give them all to Me".
Will You shed more light on this process and how to proceed?
God to Diane:
I am not aware that you have denied your feelings. I believe you have expressed them and expressed about them very well.
At what point do you decide that you have suffered enough over Molly's coming to Me? The rest of your life? One year? Now?
This is not pushing your feelings away. This is honestly looking at your feelings, and saying to Me: "God, maybe I have had enough of this pain. You have taken Molly into Your arms, and mine are bereft. I loved her with all my heart. I love her still. I miss her. When is it honorable for me to give up the suffering and just keep the love?"
Many confuse loving and suffering. Many attach judgment. They think suffering indicates love, and freedom of suffering indicates lack of love. I don't think you believe that.
Diane, if you stop crying and allow your daughter in your heart and mind to be where she is with Me, have you stopped loving her? Perhaps it is a greater loving because it lets her go.
You do not abandon your daughter by letting your suffering go. You do not abandon your daughter by letting her go. You do not abandon your daughter or your motherhood by finding other joys to occupy your life. What Molly was and is to you will never change. From My perspective, it is not love that finds its home in suffering. Suffering has its drama. Love isn't extolled with drama.
Dear Diane, cry when you cry, and laugh when you laugh. You do not have to control either way. Do not feel wrong to cry or wrong to enjoy. Both have their place. You are not better if you cry, nor less if you find joy. If there is some point remaining in suffering, lean to it. If you have wrung all there is to get from suffering, leave it. Molly doesn't need you to suffer. Do you need it? Perhaps some friends need it. Perhaps they can cry with you over Molly instead of what they might have to cry over.
This is not to say that crying is not good. It is good. And it is necessary for My children. The question is how long? Some mourners' devote their whole lives to their mourning. Their apparent loss becomes their emblem. Would you want someone to actively mourn you day in and day out?
Diane, free yourself. Mourning is not more honorable than joy. Which do you choose as tribute to Molly's spirit?
What you have here is My permission to leave mourning. That does not mean you have to. It means you have My permission and My encouragement. My permission and My encouragement are blessings. I blessed you with Molly on earth, and now I bless you without Molly on earth. We are the same, dear Diane. We go along the same, you and I. Follow Me.
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Jona to Heavenletters:
I was so excited when I saw my first e-mail from God! I read it once and then over again, printed it out and read it again, had both my mom and dad read it. I was surprised at what He had written, and I'm not quite sure how I'm going to respond. He both yes and no answered my question.
I think it was the most powerful letter I have ever gotten. He told me that I need to be careful of what I say and ask, and that I must look at every single person in love no matter what they say and do. So He answered what my soul was asking but not really what my letter was asking.
But He knows what I NEED to know, and I'm thankful for the answer I got.
God to Jona:
Dear one, it is not so much that you need to be careful of what you say and ask. It's more that you want to make clear, most especially to yourself, the difference between a statement and a question, to be clear when you are stating your beliefs, and when you are truly asking.
And with people that you disagree with or feel disappointed in, give them a giant supply of My love. Send them My love. My love is infinite. Give My love.
I congratulate your parents for letting you be your own person and giving you the freedom to respond to Me in your own way in your own time.
I look forward to your response whenever you are ready. It is easy to respond to Me, Jona, for We already know each other very well.