Nancy O. to God:
I have a follow-up question about love. Sometimes we "recognize" souls from a past life. I had that experience with my disturbed husband, and loved him immediately, but was devastated by his disrespect for me. I felt it was like a cosmic trick that I should doubt my intuition. This is really confusing, since I depend on my intuition as more correct than logic. Am I wrong?
Thank You, God.
God to Nancy O.:
Past connections are very strong. They are familiar, but they were not necessarily so great the first time. They are familiar.
There is a tendency to repeat past actions, to pick up where you left off, or to repeat the other's past actions this time around. Sometimes My children repeat the past instead of living the present. Great love last time or the time before or the time before does not necessarily mean great love this time, if, indeed, it ever really was great last time. Great love is peace, not excitement.
Letting go may mean letting go of the far past as well as this lifetime's past.
Recognizing someone you once loved or knew is sweet. It is familiar, but it is often not what it seems, nor lasting.
Tina, for instance, if she does not let go of her attachment to Robert, she most likely will attach to him again another lifetime and be stalemated. Love frees. Attachment binds.
You do not want bonds. Hear that word. Bonds. You even say bonds of love. You do not want bonds of love because they hold you in a place and may keep you from greater love and giving and freeing, including with each other.
Gloria:
Dear God, would it be correct to say that every man a woman ever loved deeply was someone from her past?
God:
Most likely. I won't say certainly, but almost certainly.
If it were a new love, it would be easier. You would be starting fresh. You wouldn't expect so much and feel so tied.
I will tell you something else. In the realm of romance, a man matters to you because he matters to you.
Often, as you have learned from experience, it is not the man you love but your idea of the man. You are in love with your idea. You are in love with what you want rather than what is. You attach your dream to someone, and your dream pulls you along.
Gloria:
Then, God, how does someone know when it is true love or not?
God:
What you mean by true love does not exist! It is not a set thing. It is not an either/or. It is not a love meant to be or a love not meant to be.
A man and a woman attempt a life together. You become housemates. Your mate cannot change your happiness quotient of daily life anymore than you can change his, or not for long anyway. Don't assume so much before you form a liaison or marry.
Marry someone easy to please. And you, yourself, practice being easy to please. Perfect man/woman love does not exist. Some are better at living together than others. Some are better at seeing the good in another. Some are more giving and forgiving than others. Some are more honest than others.
Gloria:
Someone I was talking to recently felt, looking back, that she married her husband for ego gratification.
God:
This happens very much.
Yet life is to be lived. In human terms, it is seldom lived in perfection. Although everyone is your teacher, husbands and wives are great teachers. But you often do not comprehend what it is the other is teaching you, or what the experience is for.
Some experiences in life are more worthwhile-seeming than others. But all have their value.
And life flows.
And let Me help you live your life.
Don't be afraid to live it.
Following what you want to be or do isn't always the same as following your heart.
A craving may not be from your truth.
Your perception may or may not be accurate.
Everyone finds logical reasons to do what he wants to do. And some things you just have to do because of the way you see it.
But you cannot live mortal life fearing mistakes more than desiring to live life. Do the best you can. I do not know guarantees to give you in choosing a mate, either by intuition or logic.
If you make a mistake, shrug your shoulders.
Make what you call mistakes, if you must, then, and get on with it.
Gloria:
Dear God, looking back, I had two big loves, GREAT loves in my life that didn't work out. Their choice, not mine. Nevertheless, I continued to carry these men in my heart and thoughts with tremendous sweet feelings and devotion for the whole of my life. It was like I worshipped them. I used one man's name like a mantra when I was unhappy.
Now that You have entered my life, dear God, I am appalled. What I thought was love and so important was nothing at all. It's like I had a shiny penny and thought it was gold.
I fell in love with a pair of blue eyes or brown ones and counted it true love. It was like I was intent on giving my heart away for nothing. I thought I was a person of great grand love, and now I feel ashamed. It was all in my head, dear God. They weren't worth it, and it wasn't worth it.
Thirty or so years later, I am finally shrugging my shoulders.
God:
And, Gloria, none of it matters. Somehow, all of that you see now as waste led you to Me. Never mind your embarrassed ego. That is the shiny penny.
Sweep up your vanquished thoughts of these men of the past, and bless them and thank them for letting you go. They may not have been worth all of your devotion, but they are worth more than you are allowing them now.
You have been an all-or-nothing person.
Now be simply an all-person. Give My love and let it blend into the universe.