Gloria to God:
Dear God, Your answer to Julie about not being concerned, how does one do it? When the future of your child is at stake, for example? I accepted what you said, but in the face of an actual situation, I think I would be concerned all over the place. This is another example of hearing and doing being far apart.
God:
Dear Ones, you still believe that concern, worry, franticness do some good. These are very old beliefs. "If I tear my hair out, God will hear me better. He will know the depth of my heartache, and will answer me."
You have been taught that concern is love. What kind of mother would you be if you didn't clutch your heart over your children?
I know what a mother's heart is. And I do not ask Julie or you or anyone to pretend you have no concern. I tell you to redirect your concern. Put your negative attention somewhere else. Picture your child happy and healthy. Clean the attic. Watch your thinking. It is powerful.
Every time you clutch your heart about your child, you put out a certain energy that isn't good for you or the child. You think you are protecting him with your energy, but it is more likely that you lock him in place.
It is your five-year-old's first day at school. You do everything to make it a happy day for him. Now he is at school. If you worry, "Will he like his teacher? Will she be nice to him? What if he misses me too much? What if he's scared? What if the bigger children are mean? What if he cries?….", that kind of attention, even out of his sight, will make his day less smooth. Nothing is hidden. Everything reaches.
When your child gets his driving license, and you put out fear thoughts, are you helping or hindering? If you attend to all the fear things that could happen, you are putting out a negativity that profits no one, and which may indeed attract what you don't want.
Even if your child is in the hospital, what avails the worry? Do you think it makes the child well? Do you think concern is an amulet?
Worry, concern are negativity, and they are like a leash around the child's neck and yours. They compound the difficulty. They may have contributed to it in the first place.
Then, how do you get out of this way of holding on?
1. Know truth. Know that you are holding on.
2. Know that it is inadvisable.
3. Replace it with another thought. Picture the child well and happy. Think of My love rather than your fears.
4. Take an action. Give some kind of service that gets your mind off what is troubling. Julie's helping you with back typing is a perfect example of going in another direction.
5. Don't add another concern to your list, like: "I am worrying still. I am too concerned. I am putting out negativity." Do the best you can, and ask Me for My help, and accept it in whatever form it comes.
6. Change what you can change.
7. Ask yourself some questions: "Am I overconcerned? Is my child my real concern, or is this something I can focus on and not have to look at myself?"
Don't ask too much. Let it go.
Worry becomes like a hobby. Don't let it be yours. Decide that you will free yourself from it.
Concern is a form of meddling in another's life.
I want to be sure that what I say here is not misinterpreted. I am not telling anyone to be careless.
If your child is in a bad school situation, perhaps he needs to be changed to a different teacher or class.
Change what you can change. Do what you can do. But let worry/concern disappear into the past.
Gloria:
Dear God, I saw a little bit of The Maury Povich Show, and it showed horrendously difficult teenagers who beat up their parents, stole, and got into all kinds of trouble. The teenagers were hauled off to a boot camp where there was a lot of yelling, force exerted, and physical exercise. Of course, the adults weren't bullying for their own benefit but for the teenagers'. The children's whole perspective changed. They were sorry. They remembered they were children and became responsible human beings. I wouldn't have believed that a rough boot camp could really be good for anyone, but I saw it with my own eyes!
God:
It woke them up. It woke them up to how they were kidding themselves. It got them to switch their thinking.
Boot camp would not be for all children. And it would not be your way.
Gloria to Mother Divine:
Dear Mother Divine, what would you like to tell me this morning?
Mother Divine:
What would you like to tell me?
Gloria:
Well, I didn't include A Course in Miracles this morning. It just was taking too much effort to encapsulate the beauty and magnificence of its words.
I am going to write to them and make sure I have their permission to even refer to A Course in Miracles and paraphrase from it. I'm annoyed at them because A Course in Miracles was dictated by Christ, and I love it and want to share, and they make it hard. Why can't things be simple?
Mother Divine:
They are simple. Why must you complicate? Tell me, Gloria, why are you so concerned over this? People will continue to read and love A Course in Miracles with or without your help. It doesn't NEED you! It is your need to promote it!
A Course in Miracles is not your main function, so it is not for you to be concerned about it any more than it is for you to be concerned for your child or Julie for hers.
Your concern is with HEAVEN. You still have much to do here.
Gloria:
Dear Mother Divine, I came across a beautiful quotation from the Rig Veda, 10th Mandala, 10.54. "The desires cherished in my heart strive to offer worship."
Mother Divine:
This is the true state of affairs.
Later…
Gloria to God:
Dear God, Karen called me today. She calls me when YOU have some business to conduct! I would like to repeat here what You told me through Karen.
God:
Go right ahead.
Gloria:
I'll call Karen the speaker, but it's really from You.
God:
Yes.
Karen:
The basis of all suffering is control. Control is selfish. You are not here to fix. You don't have to heal anyone. You are not in a position to be caretaker.
Be honest with yourself. People-pleasers please people so they will be liked. That's selfish. Be in your truth. Make boundaries; then other people can make their own.
If you control others, you are suffocating them. Why do you carry others? Because you are afraid you will not be liked and will then be left alone.
Look within every day. Give whatever you think you must carry to God.
The truth of love is that no one can validate you. God validates you.
If people around you are tripping out, it is not your problem. They are helping you break your pleasing pattern. When you stop your expectations, others will stop theirs. Other people's problems belong to them, not to you.
When someone doesn't love himself, he has to learn how. This is what most are learning. Stay positive and think of God. In the case of your daughter, ask Him to release your judgments because your judging makes it harder for her.
Love just is. Quit trying to understand. There is no intellect with God. Intellect is selfish. With God, there is only one side. Accept truth. Understanding comes from within. You were all born with truth.
A tree has no intellect. A tree may be blown in the wind and thirst for water, but the tree doesn't cry or get mad.
Human intellect tries to own. It thinks it's a generator, but it's really a projector, for knowledge shines down from Heaven. Let your intellect be in neutral zone, and you will know everything. Surrender, and you will know everything. Assumed control of the intellect is selfish.
Everyone must go within. All energy goes into the universe. If it is negative energy, it hurts the rest of the universe. Give positive energy, so you will bless the universe.
If people want inspiration and don't have it, they don't want it. If they want it, they will ask God.
God:
That is truth.