Gloria to Mother Divine:
Dear Mother Divine, Jon would like to have a totally harmonious effect on people, and I am sure he does. He has a good home life, and yet his wife and daughter are often at tenderhooks with each other, and he doesn't always have the serenity at home that he would like. My father was the same. He would cry out, "Can't I have a little peace?"
Mother Divine:
Some people like drama. It keeps them from thinking too much. In many homes, conflict is a habit like any other.
Many people are not at their best at home. They let their hair down too much. They are not thinking.
If everyone in a home could treat one another as a valued guest, instead of a sparring partner, there would be peace.
It is a wonder that some husbands want to come home. Or that some wives would want their husbands to.
If families would think of God's love, much tension would evaporate.
Sometimes purity in one member of a family seems to spark irritation in another.
This isn't much of an answer, I know. Keep desiring peace, and keep giving it as much as able. Give love. Give the other person happiness. Try to lighten their load, however much imagined.
A husband could come home with the eyes of a new visitor and might see ways that he can ease tension. What would be meaningful to the wife, to the child? What could take the child out of her resistant pattern?
Give joy as much as able, and keep picturing harmony in the home.
Gloria to God:
Dear God, several people have asked me to ask You what to do when one spouse is more spiritual than the other?
God:
In marriage, the two partners are often in different places. One may want to go out a lot, the other wants to stay home. One desires many children, and the other one. One desires peace, and the other wants excitement. One seeks for Me above all else, and the other doesn't want to hear about Me, and certainly not from the spouse.
Perhaps that is as it should be. Perhaps the conflicted home teaches peace. Perhaps all these differences are to be treated on the level of flaws that you bless.
It is all appearance.
Dealing directly with issues is not always the way, as everyone well knows.
Keep your eye on where you are going, and wait for the other. Or not wait.
There have been husbands and wives who desire their spouse to go to church, or their church, or to adopt their faith. This is a much simpler example than what you are talking about; you are talking about the internal and truth, not an act of it or adoption of it.
And yet it is the same. One wants to go to this church, and one wants to go to another, or one doesn't want to go at all.
And yet all are walking to Me.
Release the idea that the other ought to be in sync with you. You would not want to be held back anymore than the other wants to be pushed ahead. You are afraid of being held back, and they fear being pushed.
I understand the question here very well. How wonderful it would be if both parties were avidly seeking Me together, that I was foremost in each mind, and they could walk the path to Me hand in hand.
At the same time, your evolution is not dependent on someone else's, though it might seem so. What a spouse does or does not do is their business. Release yourself from your assumed responsibility for them.
Where they are may be right for them. Maybe they simply cannot keep up with you, even if they tried. Maybe they don't want to. Let go. Bless them. Let them find their own way.
Gloria:
In the Text for Teachers, A Course in Miracles talks about the purpose of sickness, that it comes from fear of You, and is sort of a beating You to it, as though sickness is a triumph over You, proving Your fallibility and their strength. Sickness is sick, dear God.
God:
I do not visit illness upon My children. They are not victims. They hold in their own hand the knife that stabs them.
Gloria and Readers, do not start thinking ill of the ill, as though they are separate from you. The one who has never been ill can cast the first stone.
It is ever good to have attention on Me. And many turn to Me in illness. But I do not make the illness, not as a punishment nor as a pointer to Me.
Believe Me, I am not shirking from responsibility, foisting Mine onto My children, taking advantage of anyone in his weakened condition.
The body reflects thoughts. The body is the servant and does what you tell it.
Illness comes from misperception.
Illness is not a visitor you have to have.
Give up the belief that there has to be illness. No one has to have it. It is not a fact of life. It doesn't come with life or age. If you did not believe in illness, you would not have it. If the world did not believe in it, it would not be. If the world did not honor it, sanction it, and build temples to it, it would not be.
If you never heard of the word, illness would not be. If it were not a course of study, it would not be.
Keep the world health in your mind. Health healeth. Heal thyself. Come back to Me.
Ask Me anything. If you have cursed Me all your life long, you can still ask Me anything. I will greet you with eager arms and open heart. My heart waits for you to call Me to you.