It is not for you to look for life to be an equal-opportunity employer. It is not for you to put your attention on everything being justified in life. You do not keep score, beloved. It is not for you to conjure up what you think is fair or what you think is unfair. Life isn’t like that. Fair is not a question that life asks. Life does not play a game of Even Steven. Life is more like a mountain range. It has peaks, and it has valleys. Someone who is on the uppermost peak of the mountain range and someone who, from the world’s viewpoint, is at the lowest valley can have equal happiness. That is their call. You grasp this. A wealthy man may or may not be as happy as a poor man. Happiness depends on more than the external picture of life. Of course, it does.
In whatever ways life serves you, you can be happy or unhappy.
Here is where coveting and envy come in. If you think you cannot be happy without a dishwasher, you are sadly mistaken. If you think you can’t be happy without a husband or wife, you are sadly mistaken. If you think happiness demands that you have all your desires fulfilled, you are sadly mistaken. This is not to say that having a dishwasher or a mate or anything else cannot give you happiness, yet happiness is not truly dependent upon the fulfillment of your desires.
Desire to give yourself happiness, and you will fulfill your own desires. Upon you depends your happiness. Upon you. No one else can give you all the happiness you desire. Your happiness is not dependent upon someone or something else. Surely, you have discovered this for yourself by now. Even as a child, the happiness your toy truck gave to you did not last forever.
Much of what is called happiness in the world is whimsy, no more.
Another error you may make is to see fulfillment and lack in the same pot, so to speak. In life, dishes break. A friend moves. A parent dies. Your beloved dog who gives you great happiness, gets lost. Now you mourn your happiness. Your heart aches. Keep your love, for love, your love, the love you give is your happiness. Keep on loving. Unequivocally, I tell you that love is not lost. Once tendered, love still exists. You don’t have to put the love away or place it in a grave. You can love with or without your once-loved loved one no longer objectively present in your life.
As much as you possibly can, welcome what life gives you. And when life seems to take something away from you, keep up the love. There is nothing in the world that you own anyway except the love you give. The cure for sadness, remorse, despair and all these ragged emotions is to give love. That’s it. You don’t have to hold love in place like a finger on the page of a book. You can just love with all your heart. Wherever your eye falls, that’s where you are to give your love. Tell Me now, do you require more instruction in life than this?
Love is boundless, and you are too. Nothing is to cut you off from the love in your own heart. No one can take love away from you, only you. Well, perhaps, ego can snitch your love away from you. As soon as you think that someone cannot do this to you, ego has risen its head. And if you think that life cannot do what already seems to have befallen, ego has lifted his head. And if you think that I, God, cannot allow what has befallen you, ego has lifted his head.
Beloveds, naught but ego can grab your love and take it away. What befalls isn’t the whole story. What you make of what befalls is a revised story.
When you scrape your knee in life, that is not the end of your life nor your knee. You get up, scraped knee or not, you keep going.
When your heart is scraped by one thing or another, kiss your heart, restore it, and get up and keep on giving out the love within you, for this is the process that heals the human heart.