Be Your Own Prince

God said:

Beloveds, rally round yourselves. Be your own best friend. Give yourself all the support you wish others would give to you. Whose opinion really matters but yours and Mine?

It seems to Me that if you had friends who were the way you see yourself, you would stay away from them. You may be a good friend to others, but you haven't been much of a friend to yourself. Always backbiting. Second-guessing. Why, you nip at your own heels! You make endless suggestions on how you could be better or richer or smarter. Never satisfied, you harp on improving yourself. You are never satisfied. No matter what you do and how hard you try, you tend to be displeased with your personality and character and appearance and a sundry list of faults you have inundated yourself with. You point out one flaw after another. What kind of a friend is that?

One thing you can really improve on is to start befriending yourself. Will you be a true friend, a real friend, instead of a so-called friend who wants to turn you into someone quite different, even someone else? Be the kind of friend who likes you just as you are right now, a friend who does not constantly harp on how you can be thinner, exercise more and eat less, read more or read less, be neater or less neat. In other words, a friend that is fun and enlivening to be with. A friend you want to spend time with, a friend who has a good opinion of you, even thinks highly of you.

You will admit, won't you, that you have had a hard time favoring yourself? You've had a hard time thinking much of yourself. Beloveds, how can I convince you to be more than your own stepchild, someone to put down at every turn? Be your own fairy godmother. At least, cease from being your own wicked stepmother. No longer treat yourself like Cinderella in the ashes. If you must be Cinderella, then be Cinderella who has already been rescued by the prince.

If you truly do want to benefit yourself, start looking at yourself differently. You have been a harridan when it comes to yourself. Could you become a handmaiden or a courteous valet, or the kind of waitress who serves you well?

I adjure you to become friendly and faithful to yourself. Be your own best friend. Be true to yourself. Have some regard. Pat yourself on the back. Give yourself some cheer.

The more you favor yourself, the more you will favor others. The more you fault yourself, the more you fault others.

Beloveds, nobody likes a crab. Not even you do. Don't put up with it.

Never mind your faults or anyone else's. Stop being down on yourself, as if you don't amount to much. How can you be My child and not be worthy? You certainly have been at fault in faulting yourself. Beginning now, star the good features. That is all you have to do. Immediately, that will improve you.

It is not so much that you need praise. For sure, you don't need criticism. You have had enough criticism to last a lifetime. You can use some appreciation, and you are the one to give it to yourself. Go to bat for yourself. Enough undermining. Even a modicum of self-recognition will light a fire under you. All the energy you will have because you are little nicer to yourself!

Think of what can happen when you are a lot nicer to yourself. Think of how nice and appreciative you will be of others. You may even turn the tide of the world, simply by regarding yourself in the light I see you in.

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It seems to me that if you

It seems to me that if you had friends who were the way you see yourself, you would stay away from them.

Very funny but, alas, true.

No, wait.

Regrettably still true, but regarding it from this angle, it starts looking like a solvable problem.

Dear God, help us laugh our way out of this.

[Gloria, perhaps you want to capitalize the "me"?]

Beloved Jochen, thank you so

Beloved Jochen, thank you so much for looking out for Heavenletters the way you do.

I did just capitalize the Me in the Heavenletter above. .

Just last night, someone in town whom I know called and had to tell me how horrible she is, and hopeless, and terrible. Those were her words. She quoted from saints who said you had to do this or be this before God would bless you etc. She made a great (mistaken) case for staying stuck where she was. Other people might improve, but she never could because she was so terrible etc. I don't know what's terrible about her except how she talks about herself.

She doesn't read Heavenletters. She has a computer and doesn't hook it up because what's the point. She can't go to the library to use the computer there because she has no energy.

And then this Heavenletter popped up this morning! But, according to her perception, she is a lost cause and, therefore, I suppose she will never read it anyway.

If she would read the comments on the forum alone, she would begin to see in a new light. If she could read even one of your expansive comments, Jochen, she would get out of where she makes herself stay.

But who am I to talk! I remember how astonished I was one day when I called myself Honey!

It's a good thing you told

It's a good thing you told this story, most beloved Gloria. Since I don't have to deal with your friend/acquaintance on the phone (no sarcasm involved here!), my heart goes out to her easily and effortlessly and will do for her whatever it can do. Perhaps others will join in.

Honey? You can probably see me squirm. But okay, I'll try it. May be easier with an English (or perhaps even better Gujarati) word.

Dearest Gloria and Jochen -

Dearest Gloria and Jochen - II used to try to fix everyone and as a result, I burned out....but here's the thing...as St B, beloved Bernie has told me and countless others...you give someone the gift...be it one of his books, or a Heaven Letter (via snail mail) and then they get to choose what to do with it.
When the pupil is ready, the teacher appears so perhaps dear Gloria, you might want to print it out and just give it to her...and God will do the rest if she allows God to....
Blessings to you both and all here in Heaven

You bring up some

You bring up some interesting points, Mary Sunshine, and some strong feelings in me. .

I know about burn-out.

With all due respect, over the years I have given attention to this dear lady. I spent half an hour on the phone with her last night. I firmly believe it is for her to take initiative. I am not her mother. I am not her social worker. I am not an intercessor between her and God. I am not going out of my way to do one more thing for her. I don't want to, and I also feel that it is better for her that I don't. Do I sound hard-hearted?

She has made certain choices. She can change them today. If she asks me for something (other than to listen to her self-recriminations), that's different.

Her theme seems to be how awful she is. When I went through my hard times, I wasn't all that different from this lady. Except my theme was more how good I am, and how badly the world treats me.

Jochen, what is the fairly recent Heavenletter about not feeling sorry for anyone?

Don't Feel Sorry for Anyone

http://www.heavenletters.org/why-feel-sorry-someone.html

(The link seems to have an earlier version of the title)

Thanks, Jochen. This is the

Thanks, Jochen. This is the Heavenletter! You always know!

Yes, that was an earlier title. I thought it was misleading, however.

I wrote to Annette, Heaven's archivist, and I'm guessing she can get the title and the permanent link to match.

Muchas gracias.

Link Fixed

Dear Jochen and Gloria,
I fixed the link to "Don't Feel Sorry for Anyone". You can see the change at the bottom of the Heavenletter of same title. The former link no longer works.
Thank you for bringing this to our attention.

Dearest Gloria - there must

Dearest Gloria - there must also be a Heaven Letter about when the time comes to truly let go and let God and to detach with love....you do not sound hard hearted at all...St B would tell us that we are all wounded and we get to choose how to respond....some times...we need to say yes to ourselves and just let it be....
I love you! and I remember the Heaven Letter about not feeling sorry...thanks for bringing it to the fore!

Beloved Mary Sunshine, this

Beloved Mary Sunshine, this is so on my mind that I think the topic will be a blog entry on the Godwriting blog. www.godwriting.org Maybe tomorrow.

There very likely is some issue for me here, and it's coming to the surface.

See you on the blog!

How wonderful this

How wonderful this Heavenletter and how wonderful the postings, how interesting this story, or better this Lady. Indeed I think the first step towards a change, any change, should come from her, otherwise, you could go on endless hours on trying to convince her that she isn't at all terrible without any result, because in fact, she seems pretty determined to be in that role now. Again we are talking about roles, interesting.
I thing printing a Heavenletter, with all replies and just give it to her might be a good chance for her. I suppose something will change when she tired enough of what she's playing out now or when other events might occur. It is about healing, a deep inner healing. We should allow others to be whatever they choose to be of course, even if it's natural to want to help them to see things from a different point of view.
Much love and thanks to all
Berit

Dear Berit - God speaks

Dear Berit - God speaks through you...thank you...I needed to hear these words today.
I love you
MarySunshine

Sweetest Mary, you are our

Sweetest Mary, you are our most sweet and beautiful sunshine !!!
Love you, love being here with you !
A tender hug and much love
Berit

p.s. the smileys have disappeared, no one misses them ??

God continuously calls us

God continuously calls us Beloveds...what a beautiful word... now to allow it to sink into the depths of my soul like a healing balm to bathe the wounds and make my heart and soul new.
What a blessing that the past is just that - the past. Today is a new day - a day to be faithful and friendly and loving and gentle to myself... a day to care for and about me... that is not selfishness...that is self Love which comes from You. Today's Heaven Letter is a reminder to me and to all to Love ourselves as You Love us...from the depths of Your Being to the depths of my Being...Oneness...Peace...Beauty...LOVE...forgiveness....
Yes, Forgiveness...holding onto the criticism and loathing from others is a way to remain tied to them...yet forgiveness lets love flow and releases the poisonous toxins of the soul.

How to befriend myself...

How to befriend myself? I know that this is important...but how to do it? Hmm...Maybe, just maybe to see myself through the eyes of the Father...through the eyes of God.

Okay...I'm with you so far. How in the world does God see me?

Well...God sees you as his special, precious child...wrapped in His arms...resting in His Heart. You are never apart from God...you are a part of God. Your living, breathing essence is of the Father...is the Father...and as such...you are living Love.

That sounds so loving and beautiful...but for the most part, throughout my days, I get so lost in thought and judgement, that it is hard to see myself other than a person struggling with this and that. Do you know what I mean?

Yes... I do know what you mean beloved. I do indeed.

And yet...begin...again and again...if you will...to see yourself through the patient, loving and caressing eyes of your Father. You, beloved, have never done anything wrong....and do not deserve the judgement and the harshness that you bring to yourself. Set this judgement softly aside and look anew at yourself...Look at yourself with Divine eyes...Eyes that do not carry the veils of the world in their lens...Eyes that are crystal clear and clean...and see only the Christ-like Divinity...the Love that you are.

This is a soft invitation from me to you...from Jim to you...to see yourself differently. So...whenever you start getting down on yourself, take off your human spectacles...and see anew...through Divine eyes...see into your heart...see your innocence, your wonder...your beauty...and your love. See yourself for who you truly are...a beautiful, loving child of God. Behold! the wonder of You!

Loving you always...Jim.

Thank you Jim for reminding

Thank you Jim for reminding me about the image of putting on God's crystal clear lenses through which to see ourselves!

On being a Prince to yourself.

I often send copies of Heavenletters to friends and such on my mailing list. I sent this to everyone. This message has been a long time coming. I am a writer of childrens books and books that uplift our Spirit. A great reminder that we shoud love and bless ourselves. Remember how great thou art.

Dear Janice, will you tell

Dear Janice, thank you so much for appreciating and sending out Heavenletters as you do.

Will you tell us a little more about yourself? Perhaps you would send me a candid photo and your okay to use your comment on the Reader Comment page of this website?

This goes for everybody!

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2 Heavenletter Haikus for

2 Heavenletter Haikus for you

Hello Friends,

God said have some cheer
And start befriending yourself
Be your own best friend

God said to yourself
Become friendly and faithful
Be true to yourself

Love, Light and Aloha!

The more you favor yourself,

The more you favor yourself, the more you will favor others. The more you fault yourself, the more you fault others.

Be Your Own Prince

What a wonderful project to take on. What a beautiful message that can change the world one beloved person at a time.

And how beautiful are you,

And how beautiful are you, dear Marilyn, in your understanding.